I frequently hear variations of this concern while speaking about living drama-free.
Burnout happens when we are giving to others because:
- we think it is expected of us
- we have always been worried about pleasing others
- we are not taking care of ourselves
- we have not set clear boundaries
- we have strings attached to our giving
- we have never learned to receive from others
For a period in my own life I “played the martyr,” complaining to my husband about everything I was doing. He woke me up by saying, “Then please stop. No one needs what you are doing. We need your heart.”
Serving from guilt, self-imposed expectations, or psychological need is not only not satisfying, it is not love, and, doesn’t feel like love to others either.