The suspect who tragically killed seven young men and women and injured many others was angry at women who snubbed him and the men they chose over him.
We can show surprise and disgust at his arrogance and his motive, but the tendency to stand as judge and jury over those who have what we want is not foreign territory to any of us. It’s always easier to blame “the idiots” than to ask, “What do I need to change about myself?”
When we don’t get the girl, the guy, the job, the win, the recognition, or whatever it is we think we deserve, it is always the perfect time to look for a mentor who will not be afraid to tell us exactly where we are off track. (Face it, most friends won’t tell us and we don’t listen to our enemies.)
Without taking personal responsibility for our trajectory, we will play the victim or the martyr with an angry script that ends, at best, in self-destruction, and at worst, in the destruction of many others’ lives along with our own.