How Smart People Have Conversations

“Conversation is a dialog not a monologue. That’s why there are so few good conversations.” – Truman Capote

Capote went on to imply the problem was the scarcity of intelligent talkers. I think it is more about the scarcity of intelligent listeners.

Hindrances to good dialog:

  1. Assuming you are the only one who has something to say
  2. Assuming what you say is more truthful or valuable than what someone else may say
  3. Thinking you are more interesting than you are
  4. A lack of interest in others
  5. Pretending to listen because you are thinking about what you are going to do next
  6. Tolerating the sounds coming out of another’s mouth until it is your time to talk

Here is a guarantee:

Smart people have more real dialog.


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