- Because it feels like fairy-tale thinking
- Because it seems like it doesn’t do any good anyway
- Because we pride ourselves in being rational
- Because there is no use denying what the world is really like
But, what if there was a way to be realistic and still get the benefits touted by positive-thinking advocates?
When I replaced the word “positive” with “productive,” I was immediately reminded that negative-thinking had caused me all sorts of unproductive symptoms: phobias, debilitating anxiety, relationship sabotage, giving up too quickly, jumping to the wrong conclusions, and lethargy, just to name a few.
Thinking “productively” pulled out my mental stop signs and switched my fatalism to “why not?”
Rejecting “unproductive” thoughts improved my life. Chiding myself for not thinking positive never did.