This theme of Oscar Wilde’s The Picture of Dorian Gray merits contemplation, but being able to really see our own character is tricky.
The difficult arises because we have pasted pictures of ourselves in front of our actual image by…
- getting defensive whenever anyone points out a flaw
- avoiding certain truth-tellers
- numbing ourselves out
- deflecting accusations by accusing others
- patting ourselves on the back by comparing ourselves to axe-murderers or ISIS
Some of us have avoided character revelations so successfully that the only time we really see our true self is in our dreams, or when we wake up in the middle of the night thinking about all the stupid things we’ve done, or when our conscious won’t let us get to sleep.
Mature people aren’t afraid to look.