Recently a man unabashedly told me how absolutely wonderful he was. He was very impressed with his own intelligence, his financial success, his accomplishments, and his big heart. During his soliloquy I wondered if he noticed he had left “arrogant” off his list.
It’s not that I don’t think self-confidence is an asset. It’s just that a really nice person’s awareness of their not-so-perfect side will balance their self-assessment. Or, maybe, that person doesn’t feel as much need to pat themselves on the back. Or maybe they talk more about others’ qualities than about their own.
If we feel compelled to tell people how nice we are, there’s a chance we might be missing something.
Character tells its own story.