Worth repeating…for me. I hope it is for you!
I became angry and irritated at someone who was angry and irritated about something inconsequential. I didn’t see the irony of my reaction until after I had let them have it.
Worse than not being able to take it back is the part about setting aside delighting in that person long enough to make them feel like I didn’t delight in them at all.
I’m not saying that we should just ignore our anger. That brings its own set of problems. The answer is to raise an issue without manipulation or over-reaction, but rather with clarity, compassion, and boundaries.
Lesson learned. Finally. After all these years.