“Some cause happiness wherever they go; others whenever they go.” -Oscar Wilde
We can all laugh at this quote and think of someone to whom it applies. The tricky thing is being honest enough to recognize when we are the one bringing more happiness to others by leaving. My good friend Jan once told me she had been avoiding me because I was so needy; that being with me felt like being with a vacuum cleaner. Ouch.
I had no idea. I wish she had told me sooner…even though it hurt to find out.
Habits like complaining, whining, criticizing, nagging, bragging, preaching, coercing, hogging the conversation are happy-thieves.
The challenge is to catch ourselves in the act.