Most of our friends won’t tell us the complete truth about ourselves because they don’t want to get the enemy treatment. They might have scars from trying to speak truth and they don’t want to go through it again. Even if we are lucky enough to have a friend who will take the risk, our resistance or pain may put a strain on things. (By the way, this is the strongest argument for acquiring a neutral life-coach, mentor, or therapist.)
A proactive approach with our friends (for those who can tame the ego) would be to:
- Ask for a brutally honest assessment from those who love us
- Brace ourselves for pain and shock
- Commit to learning through the muck
Or, we can justify our stubbornness…and remain mediocre.