My husband told me he had only one more email to write, then he would completely focus upon me. I said, “It’s about frick’n time!” to which he responded, “On second thought, I have several more emails to write.”
The exchange was all in jest, but sadly, mimicked a real world saga of disconnect.
How often we lose what we most want by demanding, complaining, sneering, pushing, and/or whining! Then, when we finally get what we want, the joy (connection, relationship, etc.) has been completely squeezed out of it.
The simple formula is to be in the simple place of delight with the person with whom you desire connection. That place is where they first wanted you; that sweet place where you looked at them with gentle eyes.