It is easy to complain about public figures or other difficult people being narcissistic, self-centered, selfish, or clueless and miss the same characteristics in myself…
When I can’t see past my own opinions
When I obsess about my own pain and difficulties
When I refuse to look outside my narrow boundaries
When I seek to eliminate my own pain at the expense of another’s
When I am jealous of someone else’s life.
I am not saying that very harmful people with narcissistic disorder do not exist. I am saying that if I truly want to help matters, or if I want to shun or expose narcissistic behaviors, starting with myself is the only guarantee that I won’t become “them” in the process.