Even on the faces of strangers, it is often easy to spot relationships that have passed from enjoyment to obligation. Sadly, so many of us think we are doing someone a favor by “trudging through a relationship” when this could not be farther from the truth. Humans are not built for the pain of being “endured” rather than celebrated.
In this type of arrangement, both the “tolerater” and the tolerated are cheated. Both are inviting all manner of dis–ease into their bodies, minds, and spirits, and tragically, into their other relationships.
We can only unlock the door of this toxic prison at work and at home by:
1) Getting back to a place of delight by focusing on what we love instead of what we dislike about someone (this works wonders!), or by
2) Being honest enough to own the dysfunction and mature enough to set each other free without bitterness.
Real relationships give life…not the appearance of life.