Most True Breakthroughs Are “Break-withs”

“Most true breakthroughs in life are break-withs; creating a break with the mediocrity or mistakes of the past.” -Stephen Covey (from the forward of Crucial Conversations)

Breaking with our mediocre behaviors (especially when it comes to emotion-laden relationships) takes resolve and the humility to learn new techniques, but this is our best chance for the lives of our dreams.

A few “breaks” that have radically improved my quality of life:

      Break With                                 New Technique

        Playing the victim                                     Setting Boundaries and Contingencies

         Getting defensive                                         Healthy Emotional Detachment 

                Arguing                                                                  Active Listening

                Judging                                                     Giving the Benefit of the Doubt

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When we hear ourselves complaining, criticizing, whining, or attacking it’s a good sign that we have settled for a mediocre existence.

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