“Most true breakthroughs in life are break-withs; creating a break with the mediocrity or mistakes of the past.” -Stephen Covey (from the forward of Crucial Conversations)
Breaking with our mediocre behaviors (especially when it comes to emotion-laden relationships) takes resolve and the humility to learn new techniques, but this is our best chance for the lives of our dreams.
A few “breaks” that have radically improved my quality of life:
Break With New Technique
Playing the victim Setting Boundaries and Contingencies
Getting defensive Healthy Emotional Detachment
Arguing Active Listening
Judging Giving the Benefit of the Doubt
When we hear ourselves complaining, criticizing, whining, or attacking it’s a good sign that we have settled for a mediocre existence.