Most of us spend a lifetime trying to pretty-up or cover-up our own darkness, so an accurate picture is very difficult to access.
So how can I ever fully see my own darkness?
A good start is to turn around every criticism I have of someone else.
Whenever I hear myself say or think…
- “He is so arrogant and selfish.”
- “She is so self-centered.”
- “I would never do something like that.”
First: I quit patting myself on the back for being the indisputable standard of perfect character.
Second: Honestly ask “How and when have I been arrogant, self-centered, or clueless?”
Third: Open up to the words of people who may feel the same about me.