Deception is the Real Killer

Before the Winter Olympics, thirty years ago, Kim Hyon-hui’s planted bomb on a South Korean plane killed 115 people. She had been rigorously trained in North Korea as a spy.

According to the Washington Post, “…Kim endured weeks of interrogation before confessing. It was only after being extradited to South Korea that her defenses began to weaken. The day before she opened up about the plot, a team of South Korean special agents took her sightseeing around Seoul. Kim saw a city that looked nothing like the miserable enemy outpost North Korea had described. She saw families smiling. She saw cars everywhere. She saw crowded shopping malls. She saw street vendors selling food. She saw the Olympic Village.

And she started to think that her mission, her whole purpose, had been a sham.

‘Founded upon lies,’ she said.”

(click Washington Post photo for entire article)

a man wearing a suit and tie standing in a dark room: Kim Hyon-hui in South Korea this week.

Deception is the culprit, not only in terrorism and international problems, but also in our jobs and personal lives. When we are ready to change, the easy, yet challenging book, Leadership and Self-Deception is a great place to start.

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The Whole Picture of a Role Model

Because everything is praise and success for Tesla and Spacex right now, it would be easy to underrate Elon Musk’s pain behind his bold life. Just a few years ago, he had mammoth failures and crushing criticism from everywhere, even from his heroes.

The following quote captures a day in the life…

In 2018, I can use Elon Musk’s reminder that giving up and living small is not the option I want to take.

New Year’s Challenge: Prove It.

“You learn something new every day.”

That’s easy to say, but, can we prove it?

There are many “knowers” in the world. Fewer learners. 

Real learning involves using information.

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So, a New Year’s Challenge to myself and whoever wants to take on a 2018 adventure:

Record What We Learn Everyday and How the New Information Will Be Used

Try it for a week. In a journal, notebook, Word doc, OneNote, or, even on your calendar. Make a point to record what you learned. (I’ve been doing this and it is harder than I thought it would be, but, wow! it has been worth it.)

Example:

Jan 1: I read a Brene Brown quote: “We orphan all the parts of us that don’t meet up to the ideal.”

My application: Use the quote this week to remind me not to be so hard on myself.

Happy New Learning Year to all!

Missed Moments II

Reading Julie Lythcott-Haims memoir, Real American has skillfully prodded me toward important awareness of:

  • my inadequacy to see the world from others’ points of view
  • how many moments I have wasted in self-absorption instead of seeing others and their obstacles 
  • how long it takes in a lifetime to really understand that compassion toward others is everything
  • the importance and long-term impact of all people (especially people we discount)
  • the terrible pain people of color have endured due to the callousness and ignorance of others

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Want the Kiss of Death?

Believe that you are helpless because someone or something is conspiring against you.

That is “the kiss of death” for…

  • healthy relationships

  • your job

  • productivity

  • progress

  • romance

  • politics

  • mental health

  • hope

  • fun

  • happiness

  • wealth

  • or any other type of enduring prosperity

I wasted too much of my valuable time complaining about how unfair life was, about office politics, the good-ole-boy club, politicians, and random conspiracy theories instead of proceeding with confidence in an abundant universe. Now, I’m sure there was a conspiracy. Life was rigged…in my favor! 

The happiest and most successful people live life as if everything is rigged in their favor!

Scary Stuff!

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Who needs zombies and blood-suckers to scare them when we have nightmarish relationships with some of our bosses, co-workers, friends, and family?

I may be exaggerating a bit, but I was recently reminded what a major contributor to life-sucking conversations and fear-ridden negativity I was for way too many years! I tainted countless relationships with self-centered drama. No more.

This Halloween, I am grateful for my bomb-free, earthquake-free, and monster-free life. Many people don’t have that. And, I am keenly aware that my current pain-free state can change without notice, so I can’t afford to scare any good thing away (or take it for granted)!

I hope you have a great Halloween…scaring up some happiness!

Let’s Be Honest about Walking a Fine Line

Things that I’d rather not be honest about but when I am, it makes me less judgmental and easier to be around:
I am disgusting sometimes too. It’s not just the people I criticize.
I have lied and manipulated facts when I was scared of getting in trouble.
I have made myself look better than I actually was.
I have feared rejection and looking unworthy to others.
I have sometimes done things to get attention.
Sometimes, I have even wished awful things upon cable and mobile phone companies (whom I perceived to be arrogant).
I have screamed at family members like a crazy woman and would have killed my sister if I could have gotten away with it.


We may not have killed people, but most of us have thought about it.
That makes me more prone to forgive people who actually fall off the edge.

Take the Word of an Overcomer

When life confuses or defeats me

I can listen to dark voices  

Of anger and despair

Or to the voices that call  

Out of the darkest places

From history

Or from the other side

Of tragedy

Voices that still sing 

A chorus of power

With shining eyes

Heads held high, defying

The worst that life can bring

A voice of triumph

Singing, yes! singing

In mysterious harmony

With my future 

our future selves

Listen carefully.

Worried about Doomsday…Again?

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I just saw that September 23rd has been predicted to be the end of the world.
Do you think they were referring to September 23rd in Australia or in the US?
I am curious because I will, ironically, be in Australia on September 23rd and, one day later, arriving back in the US on the 23rd. Which part of the trip should I be worried about?
I am speaking tongue in cheek, but, in reality, even barring a catastrophic end of the world tomorrow, September 23rd will be the end of “the world” for many.
The harsh truth is that many die every day…and one of them someday will be me.
So, I guess a “double” doomsday prediction should give me nothing more to worry about.
A very happy September 22nd to us all.