Everyone has a story. If I ask the right questions and have a little patience, I might hear it.
Speaking in Mississippi and eating dinner with a group of crusty oilfield foreman and superintendents, I asked them to share something interesting about their lives. The quietest and most resistant said, “I’ve got nothing to say. There’s nothing interesting about my life.” I left him alone and asked the other guys. After a lot of laughs and revelations, I came back to him and nudged a little.
He reluctantly mumbled, “Well, a long time ago, Lynyrd Skynyrd’s plane crashed in my backyard and my new wife and I helped get survivors to the hospital on my 4-wheeler.”
We spent the rest of the evening listening to his story.
Everyone is interesting.
I love this quote. It reminds me that insults only hurt if they hit close to home or if we invest a lot of time protecting our ego from them.
The happiest people are those who spend the least time feeling offended.
To get there, I have to be comfortable with my innate value as a human in training.
Happy day to you…dealing with whatever comes your way.
We often kid ourselves into thinking that we are not guilty of taking energy from people even though it is so very common for others to steal our own.
When we lapse into negativity, nagging, self-centered behaviors, or playing the victim (by complaining about people and circumstances), we inevitably join the ranks of the “energy thieves.”
Even when we judge another’s motive, expect everyone to be energized by the same things that energize us, or fail to value someone’s feelings and opinions as much as we value our own, we have become a drain versus a fountain of refreshment.
It is easy to detect the “drain” in others. More difficult to see it in ourselves.
Sometimes other people “suck.” Sometimes it is us.
The best people I know…
control their tempers
laugh at themselves
believe they are no less or no more valuable than anyone else
are generous with their thoughts and words
The world is filled with nice people. If you can’t find one, be one.