My romantic relationships and my work relationships improved when I quit worrying about how I was being perceived, or how I was being treated, what had just happened, or what was going to happen next. So did my tennis game. And my relationship with my kids and in-laws. And my health. And my joy. And my ability to have a good night’s sleep.
It took me over thirty years to figure that out with relationships. Over ten with something as inconsequential as tennis. Still working on it with new clients, new challenges, and strangers.
Most of us spend our waking hours splintered out in so many directions that we don’t even know what true focus is. People who bring their complete attention and focus with them wherever they go are so rare that when we are lucky enough to meet one, we cannot forget them. They are distilled and refreshing power: the power we have always longed for.
- Meditate, pray, sing, or read before doing ANYTHING else.
- Look around you as if it is the very first time you have seen your environment.
- Take a long walk and look at the sky.
- Postpone eating, bathing, checking email etc. until you sit quietly and think about the big universe beyond your agenda.
- Write three continuous, fast pages of whatever is on your mind. Let it pour out without censoring. (Don’t stop before you get three. You’ll be surprised at what you find.)
- Write out a list of fifty gratitudes as fast as you can.
- Remember yourself as a child. See yourself with compassion.
- Build, plant, or create something.
- Read or watch someone else’s story.
- Forgive everyone.
- Notice your breathing and heartbeat.
Choose one. Feel the difference today.
Regardless of our circumstances, each of us has a “steady stream of stuff” that easily distracts us from the meaningful. Even being “couch-bound” with broken bones, my “stuff” merely shifted from errands to internet and external to internal.
How important it is to step into the eternal river and allow the powerful current to sweep away all our mental debris and carry us swiftly out of our stagnant pools.
My “thick mud” of feeling inadequate to finish an important project (which translates to the debris of too much solitaire and too much time in social-media land) only releases its hold when I find that current.
Appropriately…today’s Note from the Universe:
Life’s magic is a lot like a swift flowing river…no matter how long you’ve overlooked it…
Step in today.