The other night I marveled at the almost-full moon. The next morning, it was full…and on the other side of the sky. I was asleep when it all happened. No one asked for my help or my expertise to keep the earth and moon in their orbits.
When I am trapped in my own dramas, it certainly helps to remember this…and that…
- I am a very small puzzle piece in a very big picture
- the only rational explanation for me being here is to learn awe, gratitude, and usefulness
- my stress, angst, jealousy, anger, or bitterness may be utterly ridiculous
- history, science, and astronomy are great perspective enhancers
Wait! Before making a list of those who have disappointed and caused disillusionment, it might be good to do a quick inventory of the times we may have done the same to others; overpromised and under-delivered, raised and dashed someone’s hopes, or created cynics in the wake behind us.
Very few of us can say that we have never broken a promise.
Quick tips for correcting the over-promising habit:
- Don’t make promises motivated by guilt: “I’ll help,” or,”I’ll call you,” etc.
- If uncertain, or not sure how to respond to an invitation, it’s better to say, “Maybe” than “Yes,” or “Sure.”
- If “no” is the answer, decline early with grace.
- Write down on a to-do list what you said you’d do.
- Do it. Even if it’s hard.