It Only Took a Lifetime

It only took a lifetime to…

  • forgive myself (and others) for being human
  • learn the value of me
  • quit comparing
  • notice the teaming life around me
  • smile (instead of sneer) at my uniqueness
  • delight in the Universe
  • laugh at being a (valuable and unlikely) speck on a speck
  • remember how to get the most out of life by playing

Ride It Out

Whether or not we believe this quote by historian Edward Gibbon, history and experience validate that those who survive and thrive are those who believe life happens for them, not to them.

It has certainly helped me to believe in my ability to ride out a storm while in the middle of one. Believing the wind and the waves were not on my side, that the storm was too much for me, caused me to…

  1. Sink

  2. Despair

  3. Give up

  4. Go bat-shit crazy

  5. Make other people miserable

If I had only known earlier that my thoughts and words were creating the blueprint of  my life, I would not have wallowed so long in pathetic negativity, comparing, and complaining.

Today I choose the thoughts and words of peace and success because my thoughts and words will  enable me to ride it out.

Knowing Our Own Vibe

Important Information about our “vibe:”

  • Being unaware of our own energy is a very common ailment

  • Vibes are not neutral. They are either spreading energy or sucking it out like a vacuum cleaner

  • Most difficult people think they don’t suck

  • Control freaks don’t have a good vibe

  • I usually don’t know that I am gone into the controlling, negative, or “bia” zone until someone tells me

  • If we haven’t given people permission to comment on our energy (without getting their heads bitten off), odds are we are part of the bad-vibe problem

  • If we think people are jerks, uncaring, a-holes, idiots, well…expect more of the same

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(Your vibe attracts your tribe.)

What To Do with Things That Cannot Be Controlled or Understood

  • Quit wasting our time on them.

  • Quit wasting our energy with them.

  • Invest that time and energy in the things we can control.

 

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(“Never lie in bed at night asking yourself questions you can’t answer.” – Charles M. Schulz)

Move on to things we can.

Turn off the neurotic machine.

Snoopy creator, Charles Schultz practiced what he preached, funneling his personal angst into his humor. And, when he lightened-up, he helped countless others lighten-up.

(originally posted January 2015)

Who Else Will Do It?

A very sensitive and bright introverted friend was asked to take over a minor management position. She never wanted to manage anyone, but said yes after I posed this question, “If you don’t do it, who will?” A moment of thought brought chaotic images to her mind of both no management or poor management scenarios. She answered the call of duty to make things better for coworkers, and she did.

Today, she is the Chief Operating Officer for a very large, global company where thousands are benefiting from her insightful and kind leadership. When the unexpected promotion came, she was looking toward retirement, but again, the question came to her mind, “Who else will do it, if I don’t?”

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And what joy it brings when we accept responsibility…with love.

How Refreshing!

Today, a women working in a bakery saw me. She saw me as a valuable being and not just another customer in a long line of customers, or another obligation in a long line of obligations. It was a rare and special treat…sweeter than the cake she helped prepare.

There are a few things in life that refresh our souls in a manner that nothing else can. I had two of them today: the first crisp and cloudless day of Autumn, and an encounter with a remarkable human being in an unremarkable place.

Transformation of the Unappreciated

I never liked Phantom of the Opera…until I understood it was about my own struggle with the dark side.

I dissed Sci-Fi…until I found it could teach me essential things.

I mocked country music…until, okay, I still mock country music.

I hated tomato juice…until I tried it.

I ignored animation…until I laughed my way through Toy Story and Shrek.

I never made the effort to learn enough about other cultures…until important people came into my life from other cultures.

I undervalued my enemies…until I knew they were like me.

I didn’t appreciate other points of view…until I listened carefully.

I can become bored with my partner…until I look at him as an eternal, masterfully-created being.

I wonder how much wonder, joy, insight, pleasure, and happiness I have missed because I confidently and callously refused it.

While You Do What You Do

This quote by Holocaust survivor, Viktor Frankl, captures a most remarkable secret for staying out of trouble with ourselves. “I want you to listen to what your conscience commands you to do and go on to carry it out to the best of your knowledge.” 

(Sadly, instead, many of us learn to ignore the simple voice within, and spend a great deal of our short lives attempting to convince ourselves and others why we had to.)

It’s never been about proving yourself to someone
It’s never been about how you compare to anyone else or get revenge for injustices
It’s never been about your fame or success
It’s never been about your money
It’s never been about your education or how smart you are
It’s never been about your face or your body
It has always been about the kind of person you are
While you do what you were born to do

This Will Shut Us Up

“If you have time to whine and complain about something, then you have the time to do something about it.”

That might sound trite…until we calculate the astonishing amount of time that we have wasted whining and complaining.

With just a little of that wasted time, I have found that I can…

  • Ask the Universe for wisdom and help
  • Offer what I do have without complaining about what I don’t
  • Seek out mentors and inspiration to counteract my feeling of helplessness
  • Decide to do what I don’t want to do
  • Take a baby-step toward something meaningful

Probably worth the discipline it takes to watch what I say…

Ground Zero

People in my life need love. I’m not sure how to give it.

I need to write. I don’t have the words.

Work must be done. I am too distracted.

There are great needs. I feel I have nothing to offer.

I make too many mistakes. I need hope.

I am confused. I need ideas and direction.

Ground zero.

It’s the frustrating place or it’s the human place.

It is the place where awareness of my own limitations can debilitate or move me to humble and confident dependence on the source of everything.

The Universe is an abundant place. I wish I had treated it as such in the past.