“‘Soulshine’ is better than sunshine, better than moonshine…” -The Allman Brothers Band
Where do I get Soulshine?
- smiling at the future
- delighting in others
- laughing at myself
- giving and forgiving
(Original Post May 2013)
This probably sounds outrageously absurd…unless you have tried it.
I dare you.
Even if you are in the pits.
Sit down and start making a list of…
If we resist the temptation to say, “Yeah, but…” or get sidetracked by some complaint or heartbreak, we can’t avoid the flicker of joy, the smile, then the laugh.
And, if we continue to wallow in our favorite things (until we can’t remember why we forgot about them), people in our lives will begin to want what we are having.
It’s pretty normal to sigh about our workload…or lack of work…or not being able to have what we want…or what went wrong…or the seemingly unfair absence of hope.
But, there is only one way to keep our discouragement from defining us: choose to meditate on the things we have versus the things we don’t have.
Catching myself sighing, getting bored, anxious, or pronouncing judgement on my life is the first step.
The second step is recovering my delight in my heart beat, or oxygen, or the beauty in something that exists in my memory or right now.
(The essence of the Law of Attraction. Be attractive. Change your vibration. Attract beauty.)
Nobody likes to be around someone who thinks they are somebody who is more important than everybody else.
But, everyone likes to be around someone who makes them feel like a somebody.
A really cool thing; even on the days when I feel like a nobody, I still have the power to make somebody else feel like a somebody. (Knowing what it feels like to be a nobody helps me remember the importance of doing this.)
The even cooler thing; we are all broken yet still somebody. And, if I know I am a somebody, but no more of a somebody than you, and you are a somebody but no more of a somebody than me, that’s the perfect condition to make the most of our somebodyness…together.
When resources are sparse and our circumstances are bleak, this poster feels like a cruel joke.
Yet, when we dismiss our cynicism, we’ll experience why visualizing unlimited abundance is worth the effort:
1) Dreaming puts a smile on our face. (Ask your friends, family, and coworkers which they prefer, the smile or the grimace?)
2) Visualization is scientifically proven to change our body chemistry, disarming harmful toxins that feed dis-ease. (Ask your body what it wants, angst or relaxation?)
3) Relaxing into hope stamps out doubt, worry, and anger. (Ask your past which worked better, despair or faith?)
4) Stopping long enough to recalibrate gives us the energy to take positive steps forward. (Ask anyone which works better, giving up or gearing up?)
(Original post 2013)
My nephew was depressed about his IQ, so we discussed other measurements that were more important. We finally decided that he had a head start on life since becoming “as a little child” was the “kingdom of heaven” criteria.
“Let the little children come to me.”
I am so at home with people who measure others by kindness versus status, looks, intelligence, or money.
Remembering that topsy-turvy economy keeps me sane…especially when the distribution of those other commodities seems a bit lopsided.
A smile is an opening
For the right words
But also for the right thoughts
Which create the capacity
What we could not receive before
“Everything comes to us that belongs to us if we create the capacity to receive it.” -Tagore
Create the capacity. Enjoy what you have been given. Get ready for amazement.
The sense of danger must not disappear:
The way is certainly both short and steep.
However gradual It looks from here;
Look if you like, but you will have to leap.
This stanza from W.H. Auden’s poem is certainly about risky love, but the sentiment can be applied to a multitude of decisions in our lives that will take us off the beaten path, away from the mundane, and into a more adventurous, fulfilling life.
Unfortunately, there are no shortcuts to becoming that person we admire.
We can’t kid ourselves forever. Living vicariously on our couch through media, books, sports, fantasy or our children will never be enough.
Today, I wish that courage to leap for you and for me.
(originally posted in October 2015)