Where Is the Fine Line?

Where is the fine line between…

  • confidence and arrogance?
  • flexibility and indecisiveness?
  • humility and self-deprecation?
  • self-respect and self-pity?
  • candor and harmful criticism?
  • compromise and cooperation?
  • communicating and talking?
  • helping and interfering?
  • love and co-dependency?

I could go on.

The point is:

  • Our happiness, success, productivity, and relationships depend upon the fine line between these character traits.
  • The trajectory of our careers and personal lives is a function of how we think and how often we think about these distinctions in our daily interactions.
  • If we chose the fast lane that speeds past these distinctions, it will not save us any time.
  • And, again, when the student is ready, the teacher will appear.

(Original post 2013)

But, What Should I Expect?



respected and impressive:
synonyms: distinguished · respected · eminent · venerable · hallowed · illustrious

Who says we can’t make this month impressive, distinguished, respected, eminent, venerable, hallowed, or illustrious?

However we arrived here (even if July dumped us unceremoniously) on the doorstep of August, we made it. There is no mistake about it.

Maybe we should remind each other to treat August as it deserves.

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BIG Starts Here

To belittle, you have to be little.” -Gibran

That includes belittling rivals, politicians, celebs, bosses, neighbors, relatives, exes, and strangers.

To their faces or behind their backs.

In public or in private.

When I took that nonsense out of my everyday conversation, it was very quiet for a while.

Then I started working on filling up the airspace with words that mattered.

Want to Stand Out?


When we cross paths with someone who…

  • operates on principal rather than self-interest
  • makes decisions based on kindness rather than greed
  • doesn’t worry about how they “appear” but, rather about honesty

…our lives are always enriched.

Want to stand out? Be that person who is not concerned about standing out, but, instead, about being fully alive.

These individuals are the salt of the earth, making exquisite what otherwise would be bland (at best).

Feeling Powerless?

Starting Place to Overcoming Powerlessness:

Quit saying it. Quit believing it. Quit playing the victim.

Especially when we have no money, no connections, and no alternatives, it seems that only those who have money and connections have power and options. Yet, history gives us countless examples of those who rose from the dust to change the world.

The best steps we can take today for ourselves and for the world are:

  1. Smile at the future and claim our right to the earth and all that is in it.
  2. Resolve to believe we are no less or no more than any other person.
  3. Show strength by refusing to waste our time and energy with resentment, jealousy, or bemoaning our lack of anything.

Seven Steps to Cool

My heroes are this cool.

They live with certainty and power and let the moments, good or bad, flow over them instead of control them.

The only way I can achieve this level of equilibrium is to:

  1. Expect the unexpected and plan for bumps in the road
  2. See, appreciate, love the gifts of this very moment
  3. Don’t take delays or aborted plans personally
  4. Believe I am equal to every obstacle (Bring it on!)
  5. Remember everything is temporary
  6. Honor all living things as I honor myself
  7. Rely on a benevolent Universe for help and support

Screw-Ups R Us

Not one of us is immune from our own royal screw-ups, yet we still tend to have such a holier-than-thou, how-dare-you attitude when someone else screws up.

Seems we could save a lot of wasted breath and unjustified righteous indignation if we…

  • just admitted we are trying to divert attention from our own embarrassing mistakes
  • quit trying to pretend we are all that
  • quit believing our sins are any less reprehensible than those of the next guy

People who do not carry around a “sense of injury” are much more pleasant to be around.

To work on this quality:

Step one: 

Quit saying “I would never do something like that.”

Step two:

Accept and expect that screw-ups are part of the human-in-training plan.


Anybody Can Say It

Ask yourself what is really important. Have the wisdom and courage to build your life around your answer. – Lee Jampolsky

When someone asks me what is really important, I say…

  • love
  • relationships
  • kindness
  • humility
  • generosity
  • spiritual health

Then I turn right around and demonstrate my “real” beliefs by making choices based on possessions, financial success, or what others think about those things.

So my lofty talk may be blah, blah, blah when it comes to what I’m actually building my life around. Or, maybe I think there are two realities; the real world and the ideal one.

Ultimate joy and serenity only exist when our “realities” are fully integrated.

I Can’t Believe That!

Don’t believe everything you think.

Even if you have been thinking it for a long time.

Especially if you have been thinking it for a long time.

Ever run into a brick wall trying to reason with someone? So frickin’ frustrating!

Ever notice that sometimes you are the brick wall? Especially when someone dares to have a contrary opinion to yours?

It’s taken a while, but I am learning to say, “Tell me more about that,” or “That’s interesting” before I start my reBUTtle.

Consequently, I have found out I am wrong more often than I thought; improving, only because I was willing to peek over the brick wall and discover an overestimation of my own infallibility.

(Original post Nov 2015)