Don’t Miss Out on the Funniest Thing in Your Life

For several years, I beat myself up for screwing up with a particular client. Last week, that client requested my services again.

A week before that, in a humbling effort to clear my conscience, I apologized to someone I had offended many years ago. They forgave me with wonderful generosity.

In both cases, my ego had been working overtime. Also, in both cases, if I had taken myself less seriously, I would have saved myself a lot of anxiety, sleeplessness, time and trouble.

In reality, we are all somewhat ridiculous. Acknowledging that takes the pressure off.

Worried about Doomsday…Again?

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I just saw that September 23rd has been predicted to be the end of the world.
Do you think they were referring to September 23rd in Australia or in the US?
I am curious because I will, ironically, be in Australia on September 23rd and, one day later, arriving back in the US on the 23rd. Which part of the trip should I be worried about?
I am speaking tongue in cheek, but, in reality, even barring a catastrophic end of the world tomorrow, September 23rd will be the end of “the world” for many.
The harsh truth is that many die every day…and one of them someday will be me.
So, I guess a “double” doomsday prediction should give me nothing more to worry about.
A very happy September 22nd to us all.

“Easy” Negativity Remover

 

Watch this video for a radical approach for removing negativity.

Or…

  • Be more aware of the things we say and think today
  • Catch and restate our unproductive words
  • Make a point of commenting on the things we like instead of the things we don’t
  • Clean up the energy around us by refusing to join the chorus of mediocrity
  • Watch our lives take a turn into contentment
  • And watch the video for a good laugh at ourselves

Facing the Music

Even if we get past Monday, going to work is hard.

Unless…

  • we learn to treat everyday the same
  • find joy inside instead of outside
  • decide that life is about giving instead of getting
  • resolve to make the most of wherever we are

Happy Tuesday. This is the day we make life better for the people around us.

Insight

Instead of:

  • whining
  • complaining
  • depending on others to fix things for us
  • being ignorant
  • limiting our own education and stunting our own growth

I asked my IT guy about a problem and found out he googled the answer.

I followed his lead and found I could be a solution person instead of a problem person.

Now, if we can just remember to use Google to help us fix relationships. (See TEDTalks and YouTube)

Step Away from the “Ledger”

I learned to “step away from the ledge” to resist the temptation to jump.

Now, I am learning to step away from the ledger to resist “jumping to conclusions” and chalking up judgments against people who might be in need of a little mercy.

 

When I don’t keep a “ledger” of everyone else’s faults, it makes it easier for me to forgive myself and believe that others are not keeping a ledger on me.

Identifying and Thanking Our Collaborators

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

As I was laughing at my own jokes recently, I realized that my ability to write sick quips and funny dialog had come from my family; not always in the best of circumstances, my mother, sisters, and brothers contributed to my proclivity for absurdity (along with a steady diet of Mad Magazine).

Each of us owe much to people who have helped us identify our gifts…however painful the process. Along with using our unique gifts, showing them appreciation is the right thing to do.

Today, I write in memory of my mother’s whacky life, my sister, Angela, the master jokester, and for my brother, Ronnie, who bought me my first MAD Magazine.

It’s too late to thank them any other way.

(originally posted 2012)

Not As I Do

While working as a middle manager I was very irritated with my boss for not giving me the recognition I deserved until…in an awkward transaction, I realized my employees were irritated with me for the very same reason.

Since then, I have noticed how easy it is for me to totally blast away at someone else’s cluelessness while completely missing my own.

The following routine helps me be less of a nincompoop:

  1. Before I open my mouth with a swift condemnation for someone else, I ask myself (with the excruciating humility it takes to be completely honest), “Have I ever done anything similar?”
  2. If the answer is “Yes.” or, “I don’t know,” I postpone judgement. In most cases, my memory will pull up something embarrassing within a few hours. Then, I decide to show mercy to the offender (as I hope others will show mercy to me) before I move ahead.
  3. If the answer is no. I thank God that I dodged that bullet, ask myself if I can address the issue proactively, and then, show mercy to the offender. (I never know when I’ll need some mercy in the future.)

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When It Is Good to Lower My Standards

It is not always a bad thing to lower my standards. It is a good thing to do when…

  • I have been too critical of myself (as I have aged, I’ve noticed that my appearance standards {ahem, obsessions} have not contributed to mental health)
  • I am too critical of others (my standards do the most harm when used to facilitate a feeling of superiority)
  • my standards were unreasonable (perfectionism) or alienated the people around me (self-righteous)
  • I based my self-worth on my standards (lack of awareness of how ridiculously messed up I am)
  • I bragged about or felt compelled to talk too much about my standards (insecure)

Or, prepare for the institution.

Yes or Know

“The only ‘no’ in my vocabulary begins with k.” My friend, Joann, got this response when she asked for help. I loved it! The person she asked for help, went on to say, “Just let me know what you need.” 

Great philosophy…

Okay, well, I admit it is not a good philosophy for those of us who have a problem setting boundaries, or for those of us who hang out with sociopaths, or, for those of us who are already in trouble with authorities for saying yes too much, but for those of us who tend to say “no” too quickly, or need to learn generosity, what a concept!

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