Today, I found encouragement in the messages of The Glass Castle movie (in theaters August 11, 2017).
The message that we don’t have to be ashamed of those things over which we had no control.
The message that there is hope for kids and employees and spouses who are under the thumb of crazies.
The message not to give up on the escape plan.
The message that there are essential things to love about everyone.
The message that we can survive (and somehow thrive under) radical pain and confusion.
The message that all of our stories hold much more mystery than we ever dreamed.
This quote is not for the faint of heart, the young crusader, or the know-it all. I was all three when I argued on the black and white side. Similar to author Jeannette Walls, I graduated to gray after failing to force an ambiguous, mixed-up world into a tidy black and white box. Good people did screwed up things. Bad people did good things. Bad things turned out good. “Good things” turned out not so good.
No one managed to have a tight rein on truth.
Jeannette Wall’s parents (as chronicled in The Glass Castle) often let her go hungry. Despite this fact, she knew they loved her. Their behaviors took “dysfunctional” to a whole new level, yet their whacked-out worldview toughened and trained her voice to speak for millions.
As you do, I intend to make good decisions. However, I have had some recent issues regarding desserts, snacks, cocktails, breakfast, lunch, and dinner (indulge me for a moment). Since I can still get into my clothes, the extra pounds hadn’t thwarted me…until…I noticed some vision problems that were possibly linked to my sugar intake.
Jeannette Walls’ The Glass Castle is a study of faulty decision-making criteria. Her parents regularly ignored the impact of their decisions upon their children. Whether we have children or not, a failure to consider the future impact of our decisions upon those who may have to take care of us, is narcissistic.
Today my criteria will be…
Is this the best possible decision for everyone, and what will I take into my future?
Reading Jeannette Walls, The Glass Castle, about her incredible life with brilliant, yet nomadic, and often irresponsible parents has prompted gratitude for her psychological toughness over and over again. Anyone who thinks they had a difficult childhood will find Jeanette’s experience enlightening and immensely entertaining, in spite of the hunger, neglect, and extreme poverty to which she was subjected.
The people I admire most are like Jeannette: able to look squarely in the face of suffering and make the best of it without dragging themselves and others through angst, self-pity, and despondency.
In general, those who are able to do this have a:
1) Belief in their own worth
2) Confidence that everything works for good
Obtaining these late in life has changed everything for me.
You are valuable. There is hope.