Duh. The Hurt Is Worth It.

While volunteering on a crisis line, a distraught young woman told me that her sister was locked in the bathroom trying to kill herself. I asked the woman if she could go to the door and tell her sister she loved her. There was silence on the line. Then, she answered, “I can’t. Our family doesn’t say things like that to each other.”

“Do you love your sister? I asked.

“Yes, but I don’t know how to say that to her.”

“Then say that, ‘I am so embarrassed and don’t know how to say it, but I love you.'”

Her sister came out.

Often, if we have to say embarrassing or awkward things, the place to start is with total honesty about what we are afraid of. Most people appreciate our vulnerability.

Our humility goes a lot farther than avoiding the truth ever will.

When Stuck

“The only way out of the labyrinth of suffering is to forgive.” – John Green

Even when it seems irrational.

Even when someone seems unforgiveable.

Even when the person we must forgive is ourselves.

Even when the Universe seems treacherous.

Even when it hurts too much.

Especially when it hurts too much.

Forgiveness is the door to rational communication, revelation, and relief.

The labyrinth was always an illusion.

The Mark We Make

Today, I was thinking about the Mother Teresa quote, “Let no one come to you without leaving better,” while wondering if I was leaving people better or worse than I found them, which reminded me of this John Green quote.

I still need a reminder that my actions are not just mine, but create a wake that rolls over unsuspecting, and often, innocent parties.

When I am conscious and aware, I want to leave something much different than scars.

I want to leave hope: hope for those who might have given up on hope.