Dysfunctional Equations

Judging and blaming others = Hiding our own screw-ups

Hiding our own screw-ups = Internal pain, dissonance, and self-betrayal

Internal pain, dissonance, and self-betrayal = Being sick and tired

Being sick and tired = Missing out on the love and joy for which we long

Missing out on the love and joy for which we long = More judging and blaming others


The only way out of this sick cycle of dysfunction is to interrupt it with the unconditional acceptance of others just as they are. The tricky part is that we have to start with accepting ourselves, especially the not-so-admirable, very human parts, just as we are. And…finally…the right equation:

Delighting in, and accepting others = Peace, happiness, and hope

The change is so worth the effort.

Sleep School

I almost went to bed troubled.

But, I remembered the suggestion of Dr. Joseph Murphy, author of The Power of Your Subconscious Mind, and, instead, asked for dreams that would give me clarity and direction for helping people in my life. I woke this morning with:

  • specific instruction for specific people

  • important information about myself that I had previously ignored

  • peace for the future

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Give the World Notice!

This is great advice for those of us who have been…

  • Tiptoeing around the Universe acting like it doesn’t belong to us.

  • Apologizing for ourselves constantly.

  • Whining about everyone getting the breaks except us.

  • Feeling like the world has passed us by.

Here’s what “giving the world notice” sounds like for me:

Listen up World! I’m gonna rock this day! It is never too late and I am never too old to use the gifts I have been given! I’m gonna light up my life and make a difference! I’m gonna live it like I mean it and people are going to be glad I was here! 

For the sake of those who need your talents, ideas, love, and passion, I hope you will give the world notice too!

Are You Ordering What You Really Want?

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After having massive tech challenges with a new phone and new web server, I heard myself saying, “They have screwed me up forever.”

What a pronouncement! No wonder my challenges were not improving! Adjusting to, “I’m sure things will work out soon,” the unfixable was miraculously fixed.

A few days before that experience, frustrated about airport delays, I had exaggerated on the phone, “I probably won’t get home until after nine o’clock!” When I walked in my door, it was ten after nine.

How often do I need proof that…

“Whatever we say about ourselves and our lives is the “order” we are placing in the Universe’s restaurant.”

Lisa Nichols

John Assaraf and Lisa Nichols remind us to use our thoughts and words to order a better future for ourselves.

Happy People Are Sexy (Encore)

Want to be more appealing to the opposite sex?

  1. Have a generous and sincere smile

  2. Be genuinely interested in others without strings attached

  3. Laugh at yourself

  4. Delight in life

  5. Be responsible but healthily detached from outcomes

  6. Be courageous

Anxiety is the thief of competence.

Self-absorption is the thief of sex-appeal.

Even if you are struggling with depression, a negative self-image, unemployment, health issues, job stress, or family challenges, letting go long enough to get out of your narrow prison and see the wide world out there will bring vast benefits to you and others.

You have what it takes to conquer your challenges.

Surrender your ego and your fear…and watch the world come to you.

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“It Doesn’t Mutter.”

What if those of us who walk around pathetically muttering to ourselves said only kind and productive things to ourselves instead?

What if we recognized the demeaning muttering for what it really is: unproductive babble? 

Hope doesn’t mutter. It smiles instead.

Love doesn’t mutter. It boldly urges us on.

Joy doesn’t mutter. It sings.

Self-talk matters. The right self-talk doesn’t mutter.


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But I Can’t Stop Long Enough to Do This

It is easier to move from thing to thing to thing than to stop and understand who I am that moves from thing to thing to thing.

I have learned from painful experience, that when I try to move from thing to thing to thing without first understanding who I am and who I am not, my work is inferior to the work I could have done had I taken the time to know first. 

When I am not occupied with protecting my self image, when I can smile at my finiteness, then I am the best version of myself, moving with lightness through time.

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It is so hard to know myself because I think the doing is the being.

I think I am here and I will always be here.

I think there is no mystery.

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“Smile at the Future?”

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In those sleepless hours of eternal night

We can wrestle with demons and writhe 

Against the chains of insomnia


Smile at our ridiculousness

And slip into morning unscathed 


While sitting ringside for the collapse of our dreams

We can shrink in screaming pain


Laugh knowingly at our need for miracles

And silence the destructive waste


Tossed like a dry and broken leaf in the wind

We can denounce the moon and the tides


Release the energy caged in disbelief

And smile at the ride of our lives

What Are We Expecting People to Be?

Are you angry at the people who have let you down?

Are you anxious about all of the injustice, abuse, and discrimination in this world?

Are you ashamed enough of your own failures that you deny, rationalize, or hide them?

When we quit expecting people to be our saviors

When we cease pretending there is no dysfunction and, instead, anticipate it

When we give up expecting ourselves to be something other than human…

We will finally have a chance to live

Without the constant and familiar war with anger, anxiety, and depression

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