When life confuses or defeats me
I can listen to dark voices
Of anger and despair
Or to the voices that call
Out of the darkest places
Or from the other side
Voices that still sing
A chorus of power
With shining eyes
Heads held high, defying
The worst that life can bring
A voice of triumph
Singing, yes! singing
In mysterious harmony
With my future
Do you have a chaos management plan (CMP)? Not just for North Korea but for the other times when your life is “nuked” by relationship, financial, or circumstantial violence.
We can’t be lulled into thinking we don’t need one, especially if we are currently quite impressed with ourselves and our “cool.”
It doesn’t take much for the props that make us feel cool to fall away and our inner deficits to be embarrassingly exposed.
My simple CMP:
- Accept what is.
- Forgive myself and others for the chaos.
- Invest in inner strength more than props.
- Expect chaos and smile at the future.
Look disappointment in the eye…and plow on through.
That’s what Ben Ferencz has been doing since successfully prosecuting twenty-two Nazi SS officers for atrocities in 1947; fighting relentlessly against genocide and oppression all over the world. When asked by CBS if it discouraged him that the world was still full of injustice, he said, “No. It takes courage not to get discouraged,” then reminded Lesley Stahl of the progress that had been made.
It takes courage not to get discouraged is a bit redundant, yet, because I am a person who throws in the towel too easily, it has become my new motto. Thank you, Ben, for your inspiration.
Today, I inaugurate myself
As the commander in chief of my own future
I celebrate my promotion
To the role of the productive leader
Of my life, full of promise and hope
Out off yesterday’s role of
Chicken little, hopeless victim, or discouraged martyr
Today I will usher myself
With a flourish and a solemn promise
Into my new position of power
Supported by the noble and the brave
Who have gone before, and will come after
Those who chose, and will choose
Action over words
Mercy over malice
And resolve over fear
Anger won’t fix it.
Euphoria won’t last.
Even the best of humans will need forgiveness.
There are no deliverers and magic potions.
The only elixir for election hangover?
Courage to look square in the face of our humanity
In whatever form it threatens
And ask for help.
And be help
Without animosity for winners or losers.
With malice toward none; with charity for all; with firmness in the right, as God gives us to see the right, let us strive on to finish the work we are in…
Abraham Lincoln, March 4, 1865
Not a pick-up line that the average Joe would use, but it unexpectedly brought great love into the lives of two strangers.
Chris Dempsey said he was in the break room one day when he overheard a guy talking about this woman who needed a liver donor. “I spent four years in the Marine Corps and learned there never to run away from anything. So I just said to myself, ‘Hey, if I can help, I’m going to help.’”
What a response! And what a great reminder of a no-strings-attached generosity that attracts the right people into our lives.
Most of us want two things from a partner: 1) strength and independence, and 2) generosity. Chris Dempsey sure had that nailed.
Want better results with romance? Start here.
Story and photo courtesy of CBS Evening News.
Before we bash the leaders of the election debacle for everything under the sun, we might consider getting off our high horse long enough to recall…
- times we have slung our own share of mud at family members, exes, bosses, coworkers, neighbors, teachers, and cable companies
- hyperbolic indictments we have made against rivals or merely those who disagreed with, or contradicted us
- grudges we have held
- bridges we have burned
- blame and shame we have passed around like a virus
- reputations we have tarnished with adolescent-like gossip
After all, the debacle would not be happening if we “noble Americans” and humanoids were not such practiced and gullible targets for pathetically embarrassing and immature tactics.
I detest the deafening static of the election as much as anyone, so I am not suggesting we should embrace it; only that we should look at the TV or computer screen carefully enough to see our own reflection staring back at us.