Got a Chaos Management Plan?

Do you have a chaos management plan (CMP)? Not just for North Korea but for the other times when your life is “nuked” by relationship, financial, or circumstantial violence.

We can’t be lulled into thinking we don’t need one, especially if we are currently quite impressed with ourselves and our “cool.”

It doesn’t take much for the props that make us feel cool to fall away and our inner deficits to be embarrassingly exposed.

My simple CMP:

  1. Accept what is.
  2. Forgive myself and others for the chaos.
  3. Invest in inner strength more than props.
  4. Expect chaos and smile at the future.

What Difference Does It Make?

Craving significance is a huge part of our human condition.

When we understand how our work matters, everything changes. We have a reason to get out of bed in the morning. We have a reason to overcome obstacles. We have a reason to keep going when pain is unbearable.

One of the greatest gifts we can give each other is to acknowledge the difference we make. Great managers do this. Good people do this.

“If it breathes, it needs encouragement.” -Charlie Chaplain

Solid and True Kindness

Samuel-Johnson-wise-quotes

I’ve always loved this quote and have long used it as a measure of authenticity and genuine kindness in a person.

(If you are dating online, watch what they do and say to {or about} someone they are not trying to impress.)

Until recently I thought Samuel Johnson was just a really smart guy, prolific writer, and author of the first English language dictionary. He was so much more; blind in one eye, barely able to see out of the other, deaf in one ear, scarred and disfigured from childhood diseases, poor and unrecognized until late in his life, he was a man who became generous by way of pain.

“Samuel Johnson fervently believed in each individual’s mysterious complexity and inherent dignity.”Ralph Waldo Emerson

Two-Minute Tune-Up 4.28.12 Adjustment Before Judgment

It occurs to me today, while lying flat on my back, that I am actually privileged to be here. I am able to completely concentrate on writing without any other responsibilities tugging at my consciousness… simply because I am unable to complete any other task.

Adjustment.

I have been forced to become aware of  my fundamental need for patience when I am faced with change. How important it is for me to reserve judgment of my circumstances until I have had critical time for psychological adjustment! What agony this buffer zone would mitigate if I only had the patience to wait.

A man who is a master of patience is master of everything else. – George Savile  

Adopt the pace of nature: her secret is patience. – Emerson
 
Stop the madness.

 

Two-Minute Tune-up 2.15.12 Power to Spare

Hey!

Today, please don’t underestimate your power to overcome all the challenges of your life.

You were created to be a contender and a champion!

You don’t have to live vicariously through the lives of celebrities or sports heroes.

You are programmed to be a victor.

You are up for the task.

You are an inspiration and your story will be a legend.

Women, men, and angels are watching you and cheering you to victory!

You can Live the big LIFE you have imagined.

Your life matters more than you ever dreamed.

Never give up.

Don’t settle for the small life of defeat.

You have power to spare.

Two Minute Tune-up 6.3.11 100% Valuable

Yesterday, Melissa, a seminar participant, told me that she had overheard a coffee shop server being yelled at by a customer, so she went over to the server and said, “Don’t let this incident get you down. YOU ARE 100% VALUABLE RIGHT NOW!” The server brightened up and was very grateful for the kind and timely words.

Melissa had just heard those words during the morning session of our seminar. She made a point to tell me that the class had immediate value and usefulness for her.

Melissa was a conduit of good…and reminded me that I had been a conduit as well. I will have to tell Debbie how she had been a conduit when, last week, she told me that I was 100% valuable!