When you can’t do it for yourself
Do it for those who never had a chance
Who died before their time
For those who had to push through the pain
Or trudge through battle fields, cold, and rain
For those who kept going when there was no light
Who kept fighting
After they had lost the fight
Do it for them, if you can’t do it for you
Be the ball, take the shot, cop the attitude
You’ve always had enough to master today
Now go and give it away
Whatever it is
You got this.
I hold these truths to be self-evident (and freeing):
1. None of us are normal.
2. All of us are more screwed-up than we realize.
3. It’s okay to be a work-in-progress. (Embrace criticism.)
4. We make things worse by pretending to be normal and projecting blame and shame on everyone else.
5. Delighting in each other (and ourselves) in spite of the crazy is the way out of self-inflicted torture.
6. “The only way to beat my crazy was by doing something even crazier.” (from Silver Lining Playbook) Translation: By focusing fanatically on a larger goal and larger world outside of my suffocating angst, I overcame it.
Accept it and laugh on.
This is one of the major themes of Gregory David Robert’s experience as portrayed in the book (soon to be movie), Shantaram. Also in Tim Tebow’s book, Shaken. Although, one book deals with the dark realities of life and the other, mostly with those of a fallen football player, the lesson is the same; losing is often the win we need for the long-haul. Accept the pain of losing as it comes, and our character development and re-direction will have countless beneficiaries.
I was pleasantly surprised with that reality recently when my challenged nephew was invited to an event sponsored by Tim Tebow’s ministries; ministries that would not exist if Tim Tebow had not been kicked off of three NFL teams.
To condemn a liar is easy.
To admit our own lies is hard.
It always stumps me that social media is so full of indictments against liars. I hate lies too, yet, I know that not lying is something most of us have not mastered. I often wonder how so many people have conveniently forgotten their own lapses and gotten on their high horses about a habit that is so universal.
Humans (that includes me) have lied to avoid pain (prompted by some derivative of fear), unable to come up with a way around the pain without lying. Humans usually don’t set out to lie until the adrenaline starts pumping out a desperate plan of escape. Then, unfortunately, some will continue down the “socio-path,” addicted to the lie, unable to distinguish truth from lie, or to remember life without the lie.
Ironically, in order to spot, and avoid being victimized by, these pathological liars, we must simply recognize the “why” and humbly own this ugly side of our shared humanity.
The most moving moment in the movie Hacksaw Ridge was the prayer for “just one more” from the medic who needed the strength to rescue just one more of the seventy-five wounded soldiers he saved on Hacksaw Ridge during World War II. I thought of that resolve and request for strength today when I was facing my weensy little tasks and feeling the lack of motivation and energy.
So when I am overwhelmed by the prospect of making it through a “difficult” day, the answer lies in simply making it through the next step, not the whole frickin list.
Just this one breath. Just this one task.
“Just one more,” seventy-four times, saved seventy-five lives in impossible circumstances.
Whether we know it or not, our willingness to persevere will always make a difference for others.
Feeling the Monday morning pressure? It’s no coincidence that in some countries, more heart attacks happen at 9 AM on Monday morning than any other time of the week. Many of us start dreading Monday as soon as we wake up on Sunday.
An easy way to open this pressure valve is to find your pressure-to-pleasure question. The following have worked well for me:
- How can I have fun while I work?
- How can I make this task a challenge to myself?
- How can I utilize my gifts more fully as I work?
- How can I bring my entire, unique self to this task?
- How can I appreciate the difference I am making today?
Patrick Lencioni, in the book Three Signs of a Miserable Job, attests that these are the signs:
- Performance is unnoticed
- Performance is unrewarded
- Performance is irrelevant
If we must stay on a job where we feel unnoticed, unrewarded, or irrelevant, we will have to find a way to do those things for ourselves.
“Nothing splendid has ever been achieved except by those who dared believe that something inside them was superior to circumstances.”
– Bruce Barton, Ad Executive, Author, and US Representative
I have a daily blog because I got fed up with my own whining. I got tired of believing my circumstances were too much for me. Feeling inferior had run its pathetic course.
Today, I don’t have to prove I am superior to you, Donald Trump, or anyone else. But, I will summon my superiority and call out (with authority) “Bring it on!” to any circumstance that comes along.
- R Realizing I didn’t need anyone’s permission or approval to be…
- E Exactly who I am
- L Letting go of restricting beliefs
- I Initiating small changes
- E Exercising faith in myself (as created with and for love)
- F Focusing on a future of dream fulfillment (instead of complaining and despairing)
Suddenly pain became a remote memory… after years of confusing agony.
How do you spell RELIEF?
(first posted in 2012)
Things always get crazy
When I don’t know what to do next
And feel empty or useless
I remember the answer may be love
Or removing obstacles to love
Not about accomplishing something.
Things can get so crazy
That I will forget about those who,
So similar to me,
Might not have a clue about what to do
Or how to do it either
I’m committing to a path of power
I’m seeing the world as a canvas, sunlight’s prism as my medium
I’m watching the story unfold as a masterpiece
I’m hearing the cheers of those who have overcome
I’m laughing with the joy of triumph
I’m wrapped in the arms of the Universe who whispers, “Well done.”
I’m remembering who I am
Now, I’m ready
Time well spent.