First to apologize. First to forgive. First to forget.
As a kid, I really wish I had known how to fight for being first in line for these privileges.
The whole apology thing could have saved me years of guilt and shame.
If I could have known it was okay to admit I made a dumb mistake when my kindergarten friend showed up at my house with a ginormous birthday gift for an imaginary birthday party which I accidentally invited her to…
Instead, I crafted an elaborate cover-up to hide my embarrassment over her embarrassment.
She never spoke to me again and I didn’t forgive myself for over a decade.
Maybe learning to be first in line for these three skills should have been the first thing we learned in the first grade.
I hope it has never happened to you, but following the novelty of freedom after quitting a job, leaving a relationship, retiring, or, as in Mandela’s case, getting out of jail, comes the “what-do-I-do-now?” stage.
Misusing our freedom by allowing ourselves to over-indulge for extended periods of time, or to become lazy will inevitably steal the joy of freedom.
Funneling our freedom into making a difference for others is real freedom.
That’s the freedom for which we were born.
Before deciding we can’t live without someone, this quote might be worth considering:
Why we want someone is a complicated matter.
So often I wanted a certain someone for what they did for my social status (ego), my biological needs (lust), or my lack in the maturity and character department (insecurity). This insightful quote by Simon Cowell shows a side I haven’t seen of him…and admittedly, of me (at times).
The best thing I ever did for myself was admit what it was I really wanted, enabling me to take the reins of my own happiness out of the hands of someone else.
When my life feels watered down is it usually because I have been too busy dodging life rather than corralling the power I need to master it.
Today, a personal inventory revealed a sucking hole in my center, and a trail of ho-hum results and interactions; all completely avoidable, had I just used a few of my breaths for observation and reflection before diving in.
The shocking truth, though, is how easily I can be fooled into thinking I am fine without making this effort.
Especially when the day seems run-of-the-mill.
Especially when everything seems just fine.
Especially when I think I’ve got this.
People who are driven by mission are awesome, unless:
- They won’t shut up about the mission
- Mission is such an obsession that they don’t see the people around them
I am a mission-driven person. I have so much I want to accomplish, but, there is nothing more noble to accomplish than to give great energy to whoever is around me, right now. Losing sight of that makes my mission frickin’ annoying.
Everything is energy and that’s all there is to it. Match the frequency of the reality you want and you cannot help but get that reality. It can be no other way. This is not philosophy. This is physics. -Albert Einstein
I love it when really smart people explain why my life sucked, scientifically.
I get it, now.
Before, I thought life was a what-the-hell-is-going-on judging game, versus what it really was: a simple, matching game.
Scoffing at Physics didn’t work. Being the abundance I want does.
Passionate people are sexy.
Passionate people who lack awareness of their own ignorance are dangerous.
Passionate people driven to growth and learning are as irresistible and rare as anything the Universe has to offer.
One of the great perplexities of life is how everyone can have such strong opinions about how to fix the world and other people yet, no clue about how to fix themselves.
I’m trying to clear up my own airspace by not sharing my unsolicited, authoritative opinions so often. I think it may stop Global Boring.
(Like…take care of your own stuff, Pam.)
Wow, that was tiring sitting as judge and jury for the whole world. What a relief. I feel less fatigued already.
Now, for the real work.
“It’s easier to play God than to love God in others.” -Dr. Henri Nouwen