The first step I must take in order to become the very best version of myself is to pay attention to my thoughts and words. Besides catching myself saying negative things, I also review my conversations to catch the times I exaggerated, wasn’t completely honest, or talked too much.
When I take the time to really hear myself, it is sometimes painful, yet, that pain gives me more incentive to grow and change.
I can’t count the number of Christmases I ruined with my pettiness; focused on the gifts I would get, what people thought of me and my gifts, or the arguments with my family. There were magic moments to be had for sure, yet I missed too many of them for the weighty cause of me.
Now, I want those moments back. I want to be able to see my mother, my siblings, the others, and the need and brilliance around me. I want to go into Christmas with my eyes wide open for opportunities to be kind, to forgive, and to live a bigger life.
As a majestic lion, may I charge, undistracted into this Christmas, and those to come, intent upon redeeming the valuable, eternal, and almost-missed moments.
What is weighing me down and keeping me from sailing?
What do I owe others so I know for sure which direction to sail?
What good can I do as I sail along my way?
These questions and the actions I take to answer them determine how I live.
Quit wasting our time on them.
Quit wasting our energy with them.
Invest that time and energy in the things we can control.
(“Never lie in bed at night asking yourself questions you can’t answer.” – Charles M. Schulz)
Move on to things we can.
Turn off the neurotic machine.
Snoopy creator, Charles Schultz practiced what he preached, funneling his personal angst into his humor. And, when he lightened-up, he helped countless others lighten-up.
(originally posted January 2015)
I used to dread attending a party at some perfect home of some perfect hostess with a perfect manicure until I realized there would always be an imperfect person present who would need an imperfect friend to help them feel less anxious about their far-from perfect life. Then I could attend without worrying about my unpainted nails. I could go and not think about how I looked…rather, about how I would see.
Stuff is stuff. Yet, it seems that, deep down, people are always looking for a genuine that goes far deeper than Dior, décor, or crystal decanters.
I can go there.
I’ve learned to go there with pleasure.
Most of us would probably love people to say this about us. But, how do we get that label?
Definitely not by trying to sound smart.
Definitely by not trying to be cool or look beautiful.
Recently, I had a meeting I wasn’t looking forward to. I felt like I didn’t have anything to offer this person and that we didn’t have much in common. In my preparation for the meeting, though, I dropped every assumption, plan, and expectation and just concentrated on being available; loving the person and the evening.
The time turned into a beautiful conversation and connection, and, that person, later, complimented my beautiful mind. What?
Must be that the “beautiful mind” person is just the one that sees and hears the other person as beautiful.
That’s much easier than trying to be beautiful.