How Do I Make Sense of This?

When my challenged nephew struggles against the yoke of his physical and mental challenges, there seems to be no relief. As his caregiver, I often want to despair.

I again find myself in the dark cavern of tragedy struggling to fathom the why of the world’s suffering.

Then, this simplest of truths:

Whatever is happening is the path to enlightenment. 

If I surrender, all the distasteful and the unwanted will explain the riddles of life to me.


When I get this, life shifts from meaningless trouble to special-ops training.

Come to me all who are weary and heavy-laden and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am meek and lowly of heart.

My yoke is easy and my burden is light.

My Tribe

My tribe is not the rich and famous

But the poor and challenged

My people are not the up and comers

But the down and outers

The hurt and hurting, lost and confused

Confessing instead of posturing or pretending

Comfortable with their failings; no image to protect

Here is my tribe, my place, the home I claim

With legions of servant heroes; lights of the world 

I wrote this because I’ve recently noticed that my shoulders cease to ache when I sit with patients in a mental health waiting room, or how relaxed I am a Special Olympics event with my nephew, or how much fun I have eating in a restaurant with messy, Autistic, Downs, or otherwise challenged adults who are just happy to be there.

Not Normal? There’s a Purpose.

Alan Rabinowitz had such a severe speech handicap that he couldn’t speak. After spending years in classes for disturbed children and unable to speak one fluent sentence out loud to another human being, Alan became the voice for animals. He is now CEO of Panthera.

a voice for the animals

Daniel Tammet, unable to interact with others normally due to Autism became a brilliant mathematician and taught the world about seeing the world through colors and numbers.

born on a blue day

Temple Grandin suffered from severe Autism and has now influenced a major shift in the way animals are treated in the meat processing industry.

different not less

We can reject, bully, pity, disown, or avoid people who are not like us (and those things about ourselves that are different) or we can discover and honor the value of the gift.