Whatever happens, take responsibility…instead of blaming, shaming or making excuses for ourselves and others.
Even if wronged, ask…
- How do I move forward productively?
- How do I keep from doing the same to others?
- Have I ever done the same to others? (Be humble enough to entertain the possibility, keeping in mind that it is easy to forget how we hurt others but difficult to forget how others have hurt us.)
- Besides my own perspective, what are others’ viewpoints?
- What can I learn from this experience?
- How can I avoid wasting my energy on blame and shame?
- What narrative will I choose about this experience? The narrative of a victim or the narrative of an overcomer?
This quote (and reading Tim Ferriss’s Tribe of Mentors) has challenged me to take my dreams to sleep with me; to focus on what I want to accomplish in the world, what I am passionate about, and where I can make a difference instead of focusing on the obstacles that seem to be in the path of my dreams.
These questions help bring my dreams into focus:
- What would you do if you weren’t afraid?
- What idea do you have for solving a world problem?
- Why not you?
- How can I bring help and hope to others?
Now, let’s see what my subconscious can do!
Ninety percent of our problems are not caused by someone or something else.
Ninety percent of our problems are caused by our own stubbornness and unwillingness to adjust what we think about someone or something else.
Hope lives…even though our “changeometer” may be broken.
Sometimes the only thing that reminds me of the neglect of my plants are pathetic looking, drooping leaves. Then I run quickly to get the water. When my inner life needs nourishment there are also warning signs:
1) Preoccupation with my appearance
2) I become so pedantic and predictable that I bore people to death
3) I start being petty and argumentative
4) So preoccupied with my plans that I fail to appreciate things and people around me
5) A feeling of powerlessness and overwhelm
Activities, narcotics, people, food, and drink can only stop the “droop” temporarily. Real presence and energy comes from within.
Able to suck life out of everything around it?
Worse than a Zombie?
Yes. All of these things.
Take care of it now.
- Make amends (even if it seems like it is too late). Find a way. Be creative. Your life depends on it.
- Forgive yourself for being human.
- Move on.
(Like a Zombie, guilt never dies. The deeper you bury it, the meaner it gets.)
I woke up sobbing once from a nightmare about unrequited love. In the dream, the harder I tried to get that love back, the crazier I acted and the more I was rejected. Unfortunately, this is more than a nightmare for many, many people. Multitudes live in constant fear and pain over losing jobs, people they love, or something else they think they must have, and are losing their dignity in the process of trying to save it.
It took me way too many years to learn that I already had the significance and security that I craved.
I now stand tall, understand I am valuable, and feel the power of The Universe behind me.
No more begging. Only accepting (and fully utilizing) what I have already been given.
My mind frequently pulls up a scene at the beginning of Dances With Wolves, where the battalion is paralyzed with fear, but Kevin Costner breaks the battle stalemate by jumping on his horse and boldly riding straight into the face of danger.
This scene reminds me of the importance of bravery in my own life. I don’t have to wait on someone else to lead or someone else to take care of me. I don’t have to spend my life complaining about the lack of leadership in the world. I can be, today, what the world needs.
We all admire someone who has courage. We are all looking for leaders who are fearless. Brave people give us hope.
You were born to be bold! This is the day!