Name Written on Water

The early death of love poet John Keats was probably from his misguided medical treatments as much as from Tuberculosis. The tragedy and pain of his death (without significant success at the age of 25) was further complicated by his financial struggles, even though he had a substantial inheritance that could have greatly helped him, but was never made known to him.

Upon his deathbed, he asked that his epitaph be, “Here lies One/Whose Name was writ in water.”

This insight into the absurdity of taking our existence too seriously, his work, and the frustrations of his life and death, too many to recount, often rescue me from despair when I am confronted with senseless injustice or confounded by seemingly random or easily preventable pain and loss.

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Life only makes sense in this context. Learning to love.

Happy V-Day.

The Pain of Valentine’s Day (repost)

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If V-Day is difficult for you, take heart. You are among friends.

When single, we often feel lonely and rejected…like everyone is loved except us.

When in a relationship, women are often hurt or disappointed by the lack of attention on Valentine’s Day from their romantic partner.

And many men feel compelled to buy gifts only because it is expected or have angst about what to buy or how to afford it.

Very few feel the bliss of romance on February 14th.

We should start a revolution and make the day about showing love to everyone! Period.

Recommended approach:

First, slap yourself out of the PLOM (Poor Little Ole Me) Club. Second, in the true spirit of St. Valentine, give gifts to anyone and everyone.

Generate happiness…not angst.

My Top Ten Valentine Malfunctions

10. I felt singled out as one of the “unloved”

9.   I had no one to give a valentine to

8.   “Everyone” received valentine gifts except me

7.   I had no money for valentines

6.   I expected more from my valentine than I received

5.   I thought I would never be among the loved

4.   My expectations for being treated “special” were unrealistic

3.   I decided to hate Valentine’s Day

2.   I became completely obsessed with myself and my pain

1.   I forgot that St. Valentine was a giver of anonymous, generous, and unrequited gifts of love and that’s why he was worth remembering

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My new functioning approach to Valentine’s Day: Become Love

The Pain of Valentine’s Day (repost)

cupidshotIf V-Day is difficult for you, take heart. You are among friends.

When single, we often feel lonely and rejected…like everyone is loved except us.

When in a relationship, women are often hurt or disappointed by the lack of attention on Valentine’s Day from their romantic partner.

And many men feel compelled to buy gifts only because it is expected or have angst about what to buy or how to afford it.

Very few feel the bliss of romance on February 14th.

We should start a revolution and make the day about showing love to everyone! Period.

Recommended approach:

First, slap yourself out of the PLOM (Poor Little Ole Me) Club. Second, in the true spirit of St. Valentine, give gifts to anyone and everyone.

Generate happiness…not angst.

Two-Minute Tune-up 2.14.12 No Hype V-Day

No commercialism. No hype. Want the best Valentine’s Day ever?

Forget about who doesn’t love you or who does and how they are going to show it. Let go of your expectations and/or disappointments.

Give love today. Give sincere and simple “valentines” to people in your path who need to be seen and loved. Give candy, money, compliments, emails, hugs, or kisses…whatever.

You’ll have so much fun and you’ll make an exquisitely big difference for people like you who just need love and feel the lack of it…particularly today.

The love you get is the love you give. Happiest Valentine’s Day ever!