Impulse to Give

There have been times that I have had an impulse to give and have hesitated too long, or tried to ignore the impulse altogether. I have always regretted it. Usually, fear was at the root of my decision.

When I felt I should give a compliment, I may have feared being overshadowed. Will they think they are better than me?

When I felt I should give encouragement, it might have been the fear of rejection. Will they question my motive?

When I felt compelled to offer support, it was probably a fear of failure. Who do I think I am? What do I have to offer?

When I felt an impulse to forgive, it was a fear of someone getting off the hook too easily. If I forgive them, they won’t get what they deserve.

When I felt I should give money, it was the fear of scarcity. Can I afford it? What if I need this in the future?

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None of my fears were grounded. I could not out give the Universe.

Today, I will give without fear.

Behind the Scenes

Today I thought about how the Universe sometimes has made behind-the-scenes accommodations, when, for instance, we were worried about being late to a meeting that, unbeknownst to us, was postponed. Or, panicked about missing a flight that was delayed. Or, frantic and frustrated about traffic making us late and others were also detained. Or scared about being late for a doctor’s or dentist appointment and we had to sit in the waiting room for a half-hour anyway.

Wasted worry.

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Important recon. Especially when the stakes are much higher.

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Things work out.

Out of Order?

When I am “out of order” I am literally doing things out of order.

  • I try to be happy before I take charge of changing my thoughts
  • I try to take charge of my day before securing my personal peace and power
  • I try to take on tasks or projects without love and gratitude
  • I try to serve my family, neighbors, or friends before making sure I am not just “checking the boxes,” posing, or being self-righteous
  • I try to “fix” someone else before fixing myself first

When I insist on doing things my own way, ignoring the natural order of success, maybe I should hang an “out of order” sign around my neck (before someone else does).

The Happiness Illusion

If I only had _______________, I’d be happy. Is that too much to ask? Why does life have to be so difficult? Why can’t I just have what I need?

Whatever word is used to fill in the blank in this sentence doesn’t matter: money, a partner, freedom, a vacation, a child, a family, friends, job, beauty, health, a house, a car, a better body, recognition, fame, respect, you name it, the statement is still untrue.

Don’t believe me? Here’s a test:

Have you ever met, or heard of anyone who has what you are seeking but still isn’t happy?

Are you aware that drug addiction, suicide, depression, alcoholism, despair, and abuse still thrive among people who have what you want?

Changes in our circumstances can make us temporarily more comfortable. Happiness still has to come from inside; a you-decide deal.

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Sing It Like You Mean It

Sometimes when I hear a singer belt out a song with jarring clarity and passion or read an impressively-crafted paragraph, I am moved to tears. This morning, while reading Shantaram, I realized that some of those tears were prayers: prayers of gratitude for the perseverance it took for author David Gregory Roberts to find his “voice,” but also, prayers for using my own “voice” with such power and precision.

I cannot sing at all, but, there have been a few times in my life when I have felt the electricity moving from me to my audience and knew I was singing, standing in the live current of eternal power: giving the gift I was born to give.

And, I knew that those who sing out loud with their gift become the gift.

It might take a lifetime, and it might not be easy, but there are people waiting for the song only we can sing.

However difficult, we must sing it like we mean it.

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When I am Totally Present for You

When I am totally present for you

You feel it

I change your energy

And lend you my strength

 

When I am totally present for you

I step out of my mediocrity

And access my super power

For killing fear and boredom

 

When I am totally present for you

I become concentrated refreshment

By admiring your beauty

In a world of splintered focus

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What Have You Summoned?

Some people say that we have “summoned” whatever has come into our lives. And that made me so angry.

But, while passing the last aid station in a half-marathon, a volunteer asked if I needed anything. Because of pain from Plantar Facsiitis, I answered, “A new foot.” Two weeks later I broke my left tibia and fibula at the ankle. When I saw my foot hanging loose, I thought of that comment. It was the foot that I had disowned.

As my “new foot” (with two plates and ten screws) was healing, I was cautious to treat both feet with utmost respect.

Whether I “summoned” the break or not, I definitely have new appreciation for every bit of my body that I have often taken for granted.

Appreciation summons abundance.

Show Me Yours First

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“The Universe is asking…show me your new vibration, I will show you miracles.”

That might sound stupid or “New Age,” yet the times when I have recovered from despair, found hope when I thought there was none, somehow discovered a way out of a bind, or seen a miniscule ray of light in the deepest darkness, it has been because I did the changing. I quit waiting for something or someone else to change.

Although, it was as easy as…

  • admitting I might be wrong
  • changing an “I can’t” to an “I will”
  • thanking instead of complaining
  • questioning instead of denouncing

It was very difficult to accept that responsibility.

Most people never do.

There is an energy, a vibration, about us that repels help or attracts it. If you doubt that, think about the people you avoid, and why.

If I Bought a Filter

If I could buy an automatic filter that would not only clean the air, but also remove all of the harmful things I think, say, and do, how different my life would be!  I would…

  1. Think more clearly
  2. Sleep better at night
  3. Become a stronger and kinder person
  4. Be happier
  5. Be less competitive, jealous, or angry
  6. Have more peace and patience
  7. Be more productive
  8. Play better tennis 🙂

Since this miracle “filter” doesn’t exist, my job is to create a routine for myself that functions as the “filter.” It may be a lifetime project, but so far my filter consists of:

  • Setting an intention of radical self-improvement and contribution
  • Daily meditation and prayer
  • Reading and learning from others
  • Honest, on-going evaluation
  • Owning my mistakes quickly

A small price to pay for all the benefits.

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If I Am Miserable

I wasted a lot of time before I owned this truth:

“We either make ourselves miserable or we make ourselves strong. The amount of work is the same.” – Carlos Castaneda

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I often lived as if depression, pain, and frustration were my default settings when I was actually in charge of those settings. I could have told my mind and body what the “default settings” were.

When I told my body that I hurt or couldn’t go on, I derailed my body’s remarkable, natural ability to recover and to heal itself. When I said, “It’s no use. I don’t have what I need to succeed,” I derailed my mind’s natural function of problem solving. My mind took my instructions and quit looking for answers.

Now, I have learned to use what I say to myself to make myself strong, not miserable.