Important Information about our “vibe:”
Being unaware of our own energy is a very common ailment
Vibes are not neutral. They are either spreading energy or sucking it out like a vacuum cleaner
Most difficult people think they don’t suck
Control freaks don’t have a good vibe
I usually don’t know that I am gone into the controlling, negative, or “bia” zone until someone tells me
If we haven’t given people permission to comment on our energy (without getting their heads bitten off), odds are we are part of the bad-vibe problem
If we think people are jerks, uncaring, a-holes, idiots, well…expect more of the same
(Your vibe attracts your tribe.)
Believe that you are helpless because someone or something is conspiring against you.
That is “the kiss of death” for…
or any other type of enduring prosperity
I wasted too much of my valuable time complaining about how unfair life was, about office politics, the good-ole-boy club, politicians, and random conspiracy theories instead of proceeding with confidence in an abundant universe. Now, I’m sure there was a conspiracy. Life was rigged…in my favor!
The happiest and most successful people live life as if everything is rigged in their favor!
“Once you start to dislike someone, everything they do begins to annoy you.”
Although, there is a smart way to opt out of the pain of living or working around someone who annoys us to death: we can choose to think about the things we appreciate about them before it is too late.
Or, we can join the crowd and set fire to another bridge.
Wise people don’t give up on people that easily.
An Aussie client told me that she always allowed ten minutes at the beginning of their meetings for “whinging.” “People need to get it out, you know, and if I don’t give them time, they will interrupt my agenda with it,” she said.
I was unfamiliar with the term, but deducted she meant whining or complaining. My follow-up question concerned where she drew the line between healthy venting and toxic gossiping and complaining.
“Motive.” was her very insightful answer.
We vent to release pressure, find answers, and help each other. We whine, gossip, and complain to release pressure, but, it is usually, at someone else’s expense.
The following quote by Eckhart Tolle reminds me to check my “whinging” before it begins to victimize me…or others.
I love this quote by Harold Kushner (author of When Bad Things Happen to Good People).
When I think of my life this way, I can trace threads of connection with situations or people through a pattern that is no less interesting than an intricate work of art, or the complicated plot of a great book.
The challenge is in the stopping to notice part.
In order to do so, I must adamantly deny fear, anxiety, and frustration access to my story. Since I am actually a co-author of “this book,” I can intentionally choose to write myself as the character that overcomes the most difficult challenges, arriving at a breath-taking climax: a climax that will tie all the intricacies and mysteries together with one great big sigh of relief.
There are days.
There are days when I come face to face with the ugly side of life; when my heart asks, “So where is your God now?”
In order to survive, I have to do a quick tour of the inexplicable things that have happened to me over the years: times when…
- resources have come out of nowhere
- people were extraordinarily generous
- pain-relief came in the nick of time
- I was miraculously rescued from threatening circumstances
- life was overwhelmingly beautiful
Then, I can relax into what I don’t understand.
Today, a women working in a bakery saw me. She saw me as a valuable being and not just another customer in a long line of customers, or another obligation in a long line of obligations. It was a rare and special treat…sweeter than the cake she helped prepare.
There are a few things in life that refresh our souls in a manner that nothing else can. I had two of them today: the first crisp and cloudless day of Autumn, and an encounter with a remarkable human being in an unremarkable place.
Enjoying the comic episodes of life more could actually save our lives: bearing us courageously over the inevitable rough seas of disappointment, doubt, and despair. A good laugh tells our cells there is hope somewhere on the horizon, somewhere in this mysterious, whacked-out world.
It also makes us less of a drag to be around.
Want more hope? Want more companions?
Smile at the absurd.