Her fire was transplanted into my flickering flame of a heart and has been fueling it since.
Mary Oliver died at 83 after infecting many people with her poetry. So glad I met her heart and invited it in.
When resources are sparse and our circumstances are bleak, this poster feels like a cruel joke.
Yet, when we dismiss our cynicism, we’ll experience why visualizing unlimited abundance is worth the effort:
1) Dreaming puts a smile on our face. (Ask your friends, family, and coworkers which they prefer, the smile or the grimace?)
2) Visualization is scientifically proven to change our body chemistry, disarming harmful toxins that feed dis-ease. (Ask your body what it wants, angst or relaxation?)
3) Relaxing into hope stamps out doubt, worry, and anger. (Ask your past which worked better, despair or faith?)
4) Stopping long enough to recalibrate gives us the energy to take positive steps forward. (Ask anyone which works better, giving up or gearing up?)
(Original post 2013)
Whatever happens, take responsibility…instead of blaming, shaming or making excuses for ourselves and others.
Even if wronged, ask…
I made a promise to myself years ago to reflect, pray, and meditate daily before I started my task list. Sometimes I cheat. Like today. I decided to get started on my list and paint my toenails before I sat down on the floor to center myself. Oops. There is now a permanent royal blue stain on the carpet to remind me to keep my commitments and do things in order.
So often, I think I am too busy to put first things first until I waste my time doing it my own way. This mistake was minor. Some mistakes permanently damage others and take a whole lot longer to repair.
The following Bruce Lee quote reinforces that nothing is as important as the time we use for personal growth.
The first time I used this phrase was in a case where I felt my partner had not listened to me. When I asked, “Can we talk about what just happened? What could I have done differently to have gotten your full attention?” he relaxed, said he was sorry, and gave me a suggestion that I still use…with unprecedented success!
The phrase removes accusatory language and doesn’t put people on the defensive, thus increasing our chances of staying in dialog and experiencing the thrill of cooperation.
I wish it were not the case, but most of us have multiple opportunities to work through relationship dysfunctions. This phrase is a useful tool.
(Dr. Dean C. Delis has a similar discussion about “No-Fault Communication” in his book, The Passion Paradox.)
A smile is an opening
For the right words
But also for the right thoughts
Which create the capacity
What we could not receive before
“Everything comes to us that belongs to us if we create the capacity to receive it.” -Tagore
Create the capacity. Enjoy what you have been given. Get ready for amazement.
At the beginning of 2018, I decided I was sick and tired of hearing myself complain about my weight (which I had been doing for many years). I made a plan: try Weight Watchers or hypnosis. I had tried everything else. Counting calories since I was 18 years old, I thought I knew everything about weight loss.
I reluctantly enrolled in a WW program that would pay me back if I lost 10 lbs. in two months. That was not a resolution, it was a challenge. And, I wanted to win it.
To my surprise, it was fun and rewarding. I didn’t have to starve myself. I learned new tricks and new habits, got my money back, and started 2019 at my lowest weight since High School! Who knew I loved winning more than I loved wine?
“Live life as if everything is rigged in your favor.” – Rumi
This is almost comical for those of us who have had difficult lives. As some of you, I spent lots of time complaining about life being rigged against me or in someone else’s favor.
It sure seemed as if it were!
But, now I believe I was totally wrong.
Since I quit talking that way (to myself and others) and started affirming the Universe’s benevolence toward me, here are some changes I have noticed:
I have more…
In short, the most significant revelation of my life has been that life has always been rigged in my favor.
I’ve always known that I attract people when I smile, but after all these years, I’m just getting the hang of how to shine “like the whole universe is mine” on the days when I am feeling quite the opposite.
Tony Robbins has helped me “shine through the difficult times” with his strategy of:
When I do, I feel like the whole universe is mine and, consequently, become the kind of person I love to be around.
On the days when I am broke or sick
When people are not responding
Or technology is trouble
When I misplace or forget my phone
Or say the wrong thing and mess up an opportunity
Or when my body (or my car) refuses to be reliable
When I can’t find my keys or traffic is brutal
Or the weather (or a relative) won’t cooperate
It is on those days I am forced to let go
Of the illusion of my control
And give honor to the Angel standing in my way
Slowing me down for my own good.