There are always three choices:
1. Mourn the past (If only…)
2. Long for the future (When I finally…)
3. Make the most of the present (What is life asking of me right now?)
For me, this starts with replacements:
1. A smile for a frown (Yes!)
2. A laugh for a tear (Whatever!)
3. A challenge for fear (Bring it on!)
“Whatever the present moment contains, accept it as if you have chosen it. Always work with it, not against it..this will miraculously transform your whole life.” – Eckhart Tolle
That is the answer to the question, “What will make the difference in my life?”
Listening vs. arguing.
Hearing vs. telling.
Learning vs. knowing.
...unless we want to be paranoid about people finding out about all the things we have done wrong.
A little mercy for offenders (even politicians) makes us easier people to live with.
Paranoia (along with subsequent deceit, hiding, and rationalizing) is often a sign that we have been making ourselves feel better about ourselves by condemning others.
Judge and feel judged.
“Perfect” paranoia for perfect pointers of fingers.
There was more peace for me
But I wanted to fight
There was more love for me
But I wanted anger
There was more joy for me
But I wanted safety
There was more wisdom for me
But I wanted to be right
And I blamed anyone but myself
for my plight
The scariest thing about depression is how it feels like a permanent state.
The scariest thing about my life is how I almost gave in to that feeling.
The scariest thing about today is how much I would have missed if I had.
So glad I didn’t miss “the Second Act.”
The Second Act is where the scary, chaotic monster of “the First Act” transforms into an angel.
The scariest thing is how inexplicably it happens.
But, what really scares me the most…is that you won’t believe me.
I hope it has never happened to you, but following the novelty of freedom after quitting a job, leaving a relationship, retiring, or, as in Mandela’s case, getting out of jail, comes the “what-do-I-do-now?” stage.
Misusing our freedom by allowing ourselves to over-indulge for extended periods of time, or to become lazy will inevitably steal the joy of freedom.
Funneling our freedom into making a difference for others is real freedom.
That’s the freedom for which we were born.
Before deciding we can’t live without someone, this quote might be worth considering:
Why we want someone is a complicated matter.
So often I wanted a certain someone for what they did for my social status (ego), my biological needs (lust), or my lack in the maturity and character department (insecurity). This insightful quote by Simon Cowell shows a side I haven’t seen of him…and admittedly, of me (at times).
The best thing I ever did for myself was admit what it was I really wanted, enabling me to take the reins of my own happiness out of the hands of someone else.
I’ve posted this quote from http://www.notsalmon.com before, but thought it might be time for a repeat.
Stop the blame-and-shame-train with “What was I learning?”
Otherwise, it’s not just me that will suffer.
I will beat others up with my…
intolerance of others’ mistakes
destructive judgements and projections