For many years I didn’t get along well with bosses. I pretended. I talked behind their backs. I thought they were idiots.
Unfortunately for me, they were the people who could tell me the truth about myself.
Saying “What can I do to fix this?” would have been much more effective than dissing their opinions. Arguing and defending my own perspective is what I chose to do instead. It got me nowhere.
When I finally got humble enough to see myself from the outside, my world rearranged itself into peace and success.
“Sometimes you can’t see yourself clearly until you see yourself through the eyes of others.”
“If the individual receives no satisfaction from his work for its own sake, he dies internally, a condition which no financial reward can justly compensate.” – Timothy Gallwey
This quote describes the inner struggle I experienced while working to support my family in the wrong job.
Sometimes, for a season, many of us are constrained to do so. In those cases, rather than die inside…
Don’t give up hope. When things were the darkest for me, it was because I believed having a job that fully engaged my talents was out of reach. (It wasn’t.)
Be completely present. For the sake of those we serve. “The anecdote for exhaustion is wholeheartedness.” – David Whyte
Challenge yourself. Character goals. Physical goals. Relationship goals. Efficiency goals. Success is sweet…no matter how small.
This March…march into your best life.
According to research presented in Daniel Pink’s book When: The Scientific Secrets of Perfect Timing, the single best predictor of a good employee/boss relationship is how prompt the boss is at returning calls, texts, and emails.
In my experience, it is also a good predictor of…
- a successful client/vendor relationship
- a happy romantic relationship
- salesperson/potential customer relationship
- any other relationship I can think of
I have met some very brilliant and interesting people, many with whom I would have loved to work or get to know better, yet, if they failed to show a sense of urgency, stood me up, or constantly rescheduled appointments, I moved on.
The most common excuse is “I am too busy,” yet, the best bosses (salespeople, partners, etc.) are never too busy for their priorities.
When we wonder why relationships aren’t working better, it might be good to start here.
Jolted by a song?
Unexpected tears at a harmony?
Moved by Gregorian Chants?
Hearing a haunting melody in your mind?
Whether you believe this quote or not, music is mysteriously connected to our inner being and has the power to right our mind if we allow it.
Times when I need music most:
- Feeling lost and overwhelmed
- Surrounded by trouble and pain
- Out of energy and joy
The challenge is remembering to stop and make time for the healing.
When I do, the return on investment is astounding.
No one has ever thrown me into a den of lions and locked the door, but by the thump of my racing heart (in far less threatening circumstances), one would think they had.
The fear of rejection or disapproval has often stopped me dead in my tracks even in something as simple as marketing myself or just trying something new.
That subtle fear of looking like a fool paralyzes even though I am consciously aware that another’s opinion or a temporary setback is terribly inconsequential.
So, practicing walking on in is what I need the most.
Courage to believe…
- the Universe supports me through danger
- when I am courageous, others benefit
- I was born for overcoming
Feel the fear and do it anyway. – Susan Jeffers
Givers Gain. If tempted to think that givers lose, or that givers are taken advantage of, I remind myself…
giving is what I am here to do
nothing in the world feels better than giving freely
I can’t guarantee that I will have the opportunity to give tomorrow
I can’t out-give the Universe’s generosity and,
all I have has been generously given to me
(inspired by Bernie Beck’s Leadership Strikes blog)