Everyone is critical of how negative and inefficient TV news is, but most of us…
- spend the majority of our conscious hours focused on what’s going wrong in the world rather than what’s going right
- have too many “commercial” breaks for shameless self-promotion or ego-driven side lines
- are more show than substance
It is no accident TV news became what it is. It’s driven by human nature.
If we want something more, we must become something more. More noble. More courageous. More grateful.
It’s pretty normal to sigh about our workload…or lack of work…or not being able to have what we want…or what went wrong…or the seemingly unfair absence of hope.
But, there is only one way to keep our discouragement from defining us: choose to meditate on the things we have versus the things we don’t have.
Catching myself sighing, getting bored, anxious, or pronouncing judgement on my life is the first step.
The second step is recovering my delight in my heart beat, or oxygen, or the beauty in something that exists in my memory or right now.
Practiced Deep Satisfaction.
So I can smile at the future and be ready for more.
(The essence of the Law of Attraction. Be attractive. Change your vibration. Attract beauty.)
It is easy to think it is just my opponents who’s minds are being destroyed by greed, hatred, and ignorance. Yet, although uncomfortable to articulate, the three evils lurk within my mind as well. They may show up as subtle thoughts about getting what is due to me, or in an angry unwillingness to listen to another’s opinion, or even in the manner I go after food and drink or luxuries.
But, if I don’t cultivate acute self-awareness and consciously execute offensive attacks to uproot these bad seeds, I am just as prone to succumb to their destructive powers as anyone.
My strongest motivation to ruthlessly search for and weed out these culprits?
The knowledge that we never get away with bad-character decisions.
When telling a story…
- It wouldn’t sound interesting enough if I didn’t exaggerate just a little
- Otherwise my story wouldn’t get the cred it deserved
When I was a kid…
- I didn’t want to get in trouble
- I didn’t know how to get attention
When I was hurting…
- No one seemed to understand
- I didn’t know how to communicate my pain
Finally learning to accept myself with all my flaws, brought…
- freedom to tell nothing but the truth
- healthy detachment from how others responded to me
- new, unaffected ways to describe inner pain, boundaries, and needs
It is also the rule of…
- relationships that thrive
- good nights’ sleep
- uncomplicated lives
- the best definition of success (even if telling the whole truth gets us in trouble, at least we will have a clear conscience)
Whatever happens, take responsibility…instead of blaming, shaming or making excuses for ourselves and others.
Even if wronged, ask…
- How do I move forward productively?
- How do I keep from doing the same to others?
- Have I ever done the same to others? (Be humble enough to entertain the possibility, keeping in mind that it is easy to forget how we hurt others but difficult to forget how others have hurt us.)
- Besides my own perspective, what are others’ viewpoints?
- What can I learn from this experience?
- How can I avoid wasting my energy on blame and shame?
- What narrative will I choose about this experience? The narrative of a victim or the narrative of an overcomer?
I made a promise to myself years ago to reflect, pray, and meditate daily before I started my task list. Sometimes I cheat. Like today. I decided to get started on my list and paint my toenails before I sat down on the floor to center myself. Oops. There is now a permanent royal blue stain on the carpet to remind me to keep my commitments and do things in order.
So often, I think I am too busy to put first things first until I waste my time doing it my own way. This mistake was minor. Some mistakes permanently damage others and take a whole lot longer to repair.
The following Bruce Lee quote reinforces that nothing is as important as the time we use for personal growth.
My nephew was depressed about his IQ, so we discussed other measurements that were more important. We finally decided that he had a head start on life since becoming “as a little child” was the “kingdom of heaven” criteria.
“Let the little children come to me.”
I am so at home with people who measure others by kindness versus status, looks, intelligence, or money.
Remembering that topsy-turvy economy keeps me sane…especially when the distribution of those other commodities seems a bit lopsided.
“Live life as if everything is rigged in your favor.” – Rumi
This is almost comical for those of us who have had difficult lives. As some of you, I spent lots of time complaining about life being rigged against me or in someone else’s favor.
It sure seemed as if it were!
But, now I believe I was totally wrong.
Since I quit talking that way (to myself and others) and started affirming the Universe’s benevolence toward me, here are some changes I have noticed:
I have more…
- amazing people in my life
- much better results
- dream fulfillment!
In short, the most significant revelation of my life has been that life has always been rigged in my favor.
I’ve always known that I attract people when I smile, but after all these years, I’m just getting the hang of how to shine “like the whole universe is mine” on the days when I am feeling quite the opposite.
Tony Robbins has helped me “shine through the difficult times” with his strategy of:
- Recalling a time when I felt super successful or excited
- Feeling it again as if it were right now
- Keeping that physiology of success (superman pose, shoulders back, head up, shout of triumph, etc.) going all day
When I do, I feel like the whole universe is mine and, consequently, become the kind of person I love to be around.
“Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing there is a field. I’ll meet you there.” – Rumi
It is so very common to complain and despair about the peace we did not find during the holidays, when finding it was always up to us, not to our circumstances or how other human beings acted.
Peace may find you in the music
Or it may sneak up on you in nature
Peace may discover you in art
Or in a smile from a grateful stranger
But, wherever it is, let’s rendezvous there
Leave the scarred place of judgment behind
Go, reaching for peace’s nurture
To soothe away the illusion
Of your troubled and complicated life