In My Hand I Hold…Only This Moment

“…only this moment, sparkling like a star in our hand–and melting like a snowflake.” –Francis Bacon

Sometimes I am shocked into considering the ridiculous brevity of my life by…looking up at the vast universe or by looking back into the history of generations of people who have already lived and died. Sometimes it is a brutal confrontation with death in a dream or in an unexpected tragedy. But, when this happens, my life takes on the more noble qualities of:

  • a sense of urgency to live fully today
  • a sensitivity about what really matters
  • a renewed commitment to live with courage, compassion, and surrender

I can make the sparkle and the melting count today. I can do what I was born to do with cheerful abandon.

Or, I can fret, fear, despair, complain, and squander what little I have left.

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Want More Love and Less Hate?

The more one judges, the less one loves and the less one feels loved.

Whatever we give we will get back.

  • Most who judge others harshly go into a tailspin when they make a mistake.
  • Our judging is fueled by an illusion that we are somehow superior, and when that illusion topples, it messes up our elaborate construct of self-respect.
  • It is easier to hate and judge others because doing so helps us avoid our own part of the problem.
  • When we avoid our own conscience, we betray ourselves and that feels bad.
  • Instead of feeling bad, we get temporary relief by blaming others for stuff instead.

When we do an inventory of our lives and we don’t have enough love, there is only one fix:

Judge less. Love more.

Are You Worth Knowing?

My Top-Ten List of People Worth Knowing:

10. People who are using their unique talents to make a difference

9.   People who are using their brilliant minds to make a difference

8.   People who are doing unappreciated jobs to make a difference 

7.   People who are courageous

6.   People who make me laugh

5.   People who never give up

4.   People who have suffered

3.  People who are generous and kind

2.  People who are forgiving

1.  People who are real

The Confusing and Disturbing Truth

My work is mostly about unraveling misunderstandings between people.

So many accusations. So many disappointments. So many troubled relationships.

I’ve found that one of the most helpful ways to deal with how people disappoint us is to remember that we are a “people” too, disappointing others just as others have disappointed us. Kipling’s quote below is harsh but contains so much truth.

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When I quit defending myself long enough to admit my own dishonesty, disguising parts of myself I think others won’t like, I can forgive others for the same.

Accepting the crazy part of being human sure makes it easier to believe that others are doing the best they can, as well.

Wholesale condemnation, even though it makes me feel temporarily better about myself, only makes it worse for everyone in the long run.

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When Music Invades Our Hearts

  • Jolted by a song?

  • Unexpected tears at a harmony?

  • Moved by Gregorian Chants?

  • Hearing a haunting melody in your mind?

Whether you believe this quote or not, music is mysteriously connected to our inner being and has the power to right our mind if we allow it.

Times when I need music most:

  • Feeling lost and overwhelmed
  • Surrounded by trouble and pain
  • Out of energy and joy

The challenge is remembering to stop and make time for the healing.

When I do, the return on investment is astounding.

“Don’t Let Me Get Me”

Today, I listened to colleagues tell tragic story after tragic story from their emergency room experiences. Most of the stories involved self-inflicted injuries. As I listened to the sheer insanity of it all, I thought of how powerful our mind is to confuse and mislead.  I thought of the dark times that I had experienced and the thought patterns that took me there.

What a powerful reminder to choose with reverence the thoughts and words that will lodge into my subconscious, so to lead myself into harmony and not into confusion, boredom, despair, or discord.

When Einstein was trudging through his work on relativity, he said he would have to stop and play his violin until he could reconnect to what he called the “harmony of the spheres.”

There is nothing more important that we can do for ourselves.

“Deep Belief in Your Own Somebodiness”

I saw a lot of tributes to MLK Jr. yesterday. This one inspired me the most. The first element of his instruction for having a life “blueprint” was to have a “deep belief in your dignity, worth, and somebodiness.”

The word is odd but it hits the spot for me.

Especially when circumstances kick me around.

Especially when “everyone else” seems more successful and more…everything.

Especially when the world seems to be an unloving place for so many.

Ride It Out

Whether or not we believe this quote by historian Edward Gibbon, history and experience validate that those who survive and thrive are those who believe life happens for them, not to them.

It has certainly helped me to believe in my ability to ride out a storm while in the middle of one. Believing the wind and the waves were not on my side, that the storm was too much for me, caused me to…

  1. Sink

  2. Despair

  3. Give up

  4. Go bat-shit crazy

  5. Make other people miserable

If I had only known earlier that my thoughts and words were creating the blueprint of  my life, I would not have wallowed so long in pathetic negativity, comparing, and complaining.

Today I choose the thoughts and words of peace and success because my thoughts and words will  enable me to ride it out.

Personal Angst Fixer

The Universe has given us plenty of reminders that we are not that impressive, including:

  • drooling, farting, pooping, burping, and pimples

  • a vulnerability to weather and natural phenomena

  • our total dependence upon the care of others during childhood, old age, and illness

  • in order to think and act clearly, we must go completely comatose for several hours every frickin night 

Yet, despite this persuasive evidence, we still take ourselves way too seriously.

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If we accept Schulz’s gift, rather than cringing at bad memories of…

  • stupid stuff we said

  • clueless stuff we did

  • our embarrassing failures

  • our annoying oversights and imperfections…

We can congratulate ourselves on being human and laugh at our tendency to think we should be perfect.

(Talk about freedom!)

Thank you for the reminder, Charles Schulz!