Happy People Are Sexy (Encore)

Want to be more appealing to the opposite sex?

  1. Have a generous and sincere smile

  2. Be genuinely interested in others without strings attached

  3. Laugh at yourself

  4. Delight in life

  5. Be responsible but healthily detached from outcomes

  6. Be courageous

Anxiety is the thief of competence.

Self-absorption is the thief of sex-appeal.

Even if you are struggling with depression, a negative self-image, unemployment, health issues, job stress, or family challenges, letting go long enough to get out of your narrow prison and see the wide world out there will bring vast benefits to you and others.

You have what it takes to conquer your challenges.

Surrender your ego and your fear…and watch the world come to you.

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“It Doesn’t Mutter.”

What if those of us who walk around pathetically muttering to ourselves said only kind and productive things to ourselves instead?

What if we recognized the demeaning muttering for what it really is: unproductive babble? 

Hope doesn’t mutter. It smiles instead.

Love doesn’t mutter. It boldly urges us on.

Joy doesn’t mutter. It sings.

Self-talk matters. The right self-talk doesn’t mutter.


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When Crazy Comes (Encore)

At times, we have all been unstable.

Circumstances have taken us off guard and driven us into deep anxiety or depression. But, when it happens, we don’t have to stay there.

If we choose to stay, those around us will be dragged into our complaints, negativity, fear, and neurosis. Or, we can rise above our circumstances by tapping into age-old wisdom for finding or regaining emotional strength:

  1. First rule: quit taking ourselves so seriously

  2. Happiness is always illusive when we are focused on ourselves

  3. Own our mistakes and make things right

  4. Forgive as we would like to be forgiven

  5. Fully utilize the power of gratitude to keep perspective

  6. Strength rises and falls according to our thoughts

  7. Cease comparing ourselves, worrying about others, and, merely give our gifts with no strings attached

life is too short to be small

Life is too short to be small. -Benjamin Disraeli

I’m Embarrassed.

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I’m embarrassed that it took me so long to try new things.

I’m embarrassed that I said no to new methods. 

I’m embarrassed that I stayed in my ruts so long.

I’m embarrassed that I thought I knew when I didn’t.

I’m embarrassed that I was slightly educated and thought I was an expert.

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But, I’m happy that as long as there is breath, there is hope!

Stop Acting So Small

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Ways in Which I Have Acted Small:

  • Being jealous of the place others have in the Universe

  • Whining about how unfair the world was to me

  • Hurting others to make myself feel better

  • Telling myself that I was more or less valuable than any other human being

  • Thinking I was common

  • Wallowing in my limitations and pain

  • Giving up too quickly

  • Failing to smile at the future and to act with courage

  • Ignoring the magnitude of the miracles that sustain me any given moment

  • Fearing scarcity and loss

When to Expect Rewards (repost)

I don’t know why this is true, but it seems to be the experience of many I admire. Life asks regular humans to push past what they think is possible, reasonable, or doable in order to find the hero lying dormant within them.
Today I heard myself think, I can’t handle this anymore. I stopped and changed my self-talk to I can do whatever life is requiring of me. Immediately I noticed tangible changes in my body:

  • The “butterflies” in my stomach settled
  • My mind quit racing
  • My pulse decreased
  • My breathing became less shallow

Labeling what is happening to me as “normal” instead of “unfair,” “unreasonable,” or “unhealthy” is my first step to stability. Stability must precede tenacity. And tenacity always precedes rewards.

(I reposted because I needed the reminder.)

True and Simple Nobility

Life became a lot easier when I quit…

  • comparing my progress to that of my peers.
  • worrying about impressing my family members.
  • using someone else’s success as my measuring stick.

Everything became more serene when a new day became a plain and simple chance to be…

  1. better than the day before.
  2. true to my word with everyone.
  3. aware of the vast and abundant Universe…beckoning…simply beckoning me to live fully now.

Fail Early, Fail Often, and Fail Forward

Getting my head around this understanding of failure has been a real challenge.

Failure, to me, was always…

  • embarrassing

  • debilitating

  • terrifying

  • depressing

I spent many years hiding rejection scars, pretending I hadn’t failed, blaming and shaming myself and others about failures before I ever experienced the joy of failing forward.

“Failure is not your enemy but your guide to improvement.”

Changing to the habit of excepting my humanity, even laughing at my propensity to fail, has brought me massive relief…and always…closer to success.

What We Think of You

What we think of you doesn’t really matter.

In the early 1700’s people thought Johann Sabastian Bach’s music was “mediocre, too complex, and unsatisfactory.” https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Intellectual_Devotional

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Huh. So glad Bach didn’t get discouraged and quit before I had a chance to hear “Sheep May Safely Graze” three-thousand (okay, three hundred) years later.  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jCyJvRaQ3Dg

Gee, I guess public opinion can be wrong.

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I can, and should, learn and grow from what other people say about me, but if I start measuring my worth by it, everyone loses.

Looking for “greener grass?”

“The grass is greener where you water it.” – Neil Barringham

Have you watered lately? Today? Right where you are?

If not, don’t be surprised if, when you jump the fence for greener pastures, you find that it takes work to keep the grass green there as well.

In fact, smart people take the “water can” of generous thoughts, kind words, compliments, and hope with them wherever they go, just in case a little “greening-up” is required.

At home, at work, in the neighborhood; it works everywhere.

I sure like hanging around those kind of people.